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The thing you need to know about chronic anger is that it potentially has a root in a completely different emotion altogether. In fact, it’s safe to say that frustration and unfulfilled expectations are more accurately to blame than an out-of-control aggressive personality. When our needs go unmet for any length of time, we become less able to keep ourselves even keeled and behaving rationally. This “tilt” of sort is what causes the snippy attitude, the bitch from hell outbursts, and the misfortune demise of your grandmother’s crystal glasses. I might be exaggerating a little, but you get the point – your mad and you don’t care who knows it or what you break to express it.
Another common cause of perpetual PMS (misdirected anger) is the physical imbalance that can happen when you are constantly under stress or put in situations that are out of control. If it gets to this point, unstable emotions are the result of insufficient brain chemicals and too much of others. This isn’t a chemistry or biology lesson, so I’m not going to get into the technical stuff. I just want you to understand how ignoring an anger issue could potentially be dangerous to your health.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. How many hours a day are you under stress?
2. What unfulfilled expectations do you have?
3. Have you had a recent trauma; such as, divorce, death of a loved one, a move, job change, illness?
4. What things or activities bring you peace? How often do you engage in them?
5. Do you blame others for your problems? If so, whom?
6. Are you tired enough of being angry to do some work and overcome it?
After answering these questions, please think about what else might be playing a part in your extreme emotions. Hold that thought; I will continue with part 2 of Why Am I Always Angry tomorrow. Until then, be well-be beautiful.
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Welcome back to our discussion about time management. The question at hand is a rather important one to ask yourself if you want to get to the next level in any area of your life. You can either do what you have to do to keep your time in check or you can let it walk mercilessly all over you. And you wonder why you always feel exhausted and brain-dead…
Please trust that I am no stranger to the trampling feet of the twenty – four – hours - gone - terribly – wrong syndrome. In fact, I’m somewhat taking a beating right now as I’ve added some challenging projects to my schedule. I haven’t quite nailed down the best way in which to handle all of my responsibilities. The important thing is that I’m working toward it by practicing what I preach.
Why You Lose Control of Your Calendar
When things get horrifically busy for mom, you know it’s gonna be bad for everyone. So we kind of have to deal with the core of the problem which could be a number of things. Here’s just a few culprits that get the best of mommies everywhere:
• Inability to say no – It’s nice to give of your time but you need boundaries for your own sake and that of your family’s.
• Inability to delegate tasks or ask for help – Even Super woman has her limitations.
• Pride, Status, and Money - Oooh…she did not just go there! Yes, I did!
• You thrive on chaos and don’t want to change – It’s messy but someone has to do it, right?
Whether you have any or all of these issues needling you or something different altogether, it still boils down to YOU and YOUR willingness to make some changes. Let us know how you do. And that about says it for now. Be well-be beautiful.
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My good blog friend, Genny, from My Cup 2 Yours has a thing that she does every Thursday called Talkin’ About Thursdays. I participated in her community activity last week and had a blast writing my post and visiting the blogs of others. As I usually do for my Daily 300 posts, I’m going to keep this short and sweet.
Goals…we need to set them, reevaluate them, and meet them regularly.
Here’s a few things I’m working on right now…
1. A successful completion of intuitive life-coaching courses. I’ve got six months to grow and learn from a great mentor, Karen Coffey.
2. Getting my novel submission-ready. This is a tough one because it’s hard to tell when it’s done…I mean really done!
3. Increasing the traffic on Women’s Life Link to 150 visitors a day regularly. When this is done, I am going to launch another blog!
4. Discovering whether I have food allergies or not. I’ve cut out all dairy this week to see if the headaches lessen and if I have more energy. I really miss milk!!! The hubby is picking up some rice milk for me.
5. Getting my eight hours of sleep a night. Someone please tell my toddler that she needs to sleep, too! Of course, not staying up to work or watch TV would help.
6. To take steps to spiritual growth every day. I’ve been spending a lot more time communicating with God lately. The direction and insights are invaluable to my success as Kellie.
What are your goals and what steps are you taking to meet them? Please share your thoughts. Be well-be beautiful.
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Random – lacking any definite plan or order or purpose.
Kindness – the quality of being warmhearted, considerate, humane, and sympathetic.
Now that we understand exactly what I’m talking about, let’s get to it. First, the need to be kind (without planning it) for some is apparent, while for others it might hesitantly sneak out after much deliberation…I said might. Which one are you? Which one am I? We have to ask ourselves daily what this universal act of humane connection means to us. When was the last time you did something for someone and received nothing in return?
Sympathy and Empathy
There are two things prerequisite to random acts of kindness: Sympathy and empathy. Depending on how sensitive you are to the plight of others, you’ll feel one or the other or both. Sympathy is really the slighter emotion that most people experience when they see someone go through a crisis or tragedy. Empathy takes it a step further by helping you employ the emotions that person is having. You might be naturally empathic or it could be that you experienced something similar and truly can relate to another’s situation. Either way, when you use these feelings you are more likely to act with kindness.
Kindness: A Key to Your Success
Truth be told, when you act with love and concern, you see those gestures return to you – not that you did them with an agenda. It’s a spiritual law that is at work whether we believe or not. I’ve worked this one out for myself. When I’ve felt lonely and in need of some kindness, I realized that I wasn’t giving out much to those around me. When I started shelling out the goods, they came back to me in abundance. Try it; you’ll love it! Be well-be beautiful.
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Passion – a word that has so much energy and promise. It brings lovers together; it wins wars; it creates fine art and literature; it makes money; and it works miracles. Those who find it have the potential to do all of the above and more. Keep in mind, though, there are good passions and bad ones. Just as the honorable, passionate woman brings beauty and love to the table, her counterpart, the naughty, greedy (equally passionate) gal can ruin your life and her own faster than you can say Desperate Housewives.
Is Your Passion Honorable?
Good question, Kellie.
Here’s the short answer (all I have room for here). It depends on what you believe is honorable. In a perfect world we would all understand the truth about that. It is simple and really does fit in a nutshell: Love. If what you desire is driven by your love for someone or something else other than self-gratification, it’s honorable.
Period.
How Do You Know If It’s Right?
Well, first of all, it will honor you as well as mankind. Secondly, it will make room for you. That means you won’t be fighting tooth and nail to express or work with your passion. Furthermore, others notice you can’t stop talking about it with a broad, natural smile on your face. It expands your world and makes your heart beat faster. For more insight about passions, see Introspective Sunday: What Is Your Purpose?
So, what are you passionate about? Be well-be beautiful.
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I’ve never heard (or read) as much controversy and ridicule as I did when the airlines decided to charge to check baggage. I also realized that this was going to force passengers to re-think what they really needed for any given trip. No more “just in case I need it” packing. Now, if you hang around here at all, you know I’m not going to go on about the aviation industry and their desperate attempt to make a buck. I’m only using them as an example for a little life lesson (in 300 words or less, of course.
Money. You know that green stuff that we go bonkers over when someone tries to take more than they should…like the airlines. After all, we paid for the ticket and should be able to take whatever we want on our trips whether we need it or not. Right? Well, maybe for flying on a plane, but definitely not for the kind of flying I’m talking about.
Do you know what it feels like to be free – when everything seems to open up for you and you’re on top of the world (a sense of self-flight)? That’s what I’m talking about. Guess what? If you do know that wonderful place, it’s because you dumped your baggage before you started climbing – your emotional baggage, that is.
Hanging onto unnecessary emotions and pain from the past (packing more than you need) is not an option if you want to move freely to the next destination in your life journey. Why? Because I said so…no, seriously, it’s much too costly. Only it isn’t that green stuff leaving; it’s a nice piece of yourself being offered to the kick-me-when-I’m-down god. We’ve all done it, but it’s time to stop paying for your baggage.
Just let it go. Be well-be beautiful.
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I noticed the packaging on my toddler’s Duplo Blocks, it read: Endless Possibilities. It doesn’t get much more inspiring than that. The thing is…you don’t have to say that to a toddler or to any child. The word “duh” comes to mind. Children are naturally curious, adventurous, go-all-out, bring it, and don’t see the world as limiting. Why do we lose that sense of wonder when we “grow up”? When was the last time that you caught yourself thinking about something in infinite terms?
That’s what I thought.
It’s not a common practice when we have all this life to live, right? Well, it should be. Recently, I started thinking a little more expansive. I’ve never felt more alive and hopeful about my future! I really believe we are meant to create our own endless possibilities…daily, hourly, by the second!
When Your Brain Oozes Outside the Box
Oooh…gross! Not so fast. Physically, yes, it’s an icky picture. But think about the bigger element – mind expansion. Along with growing your heart, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself and others. Yes, the world needs you to start oozing….anytime now. Go ahead, make a big mess! Let it all hang out of your pretty little world. Remember, just because you don’t think endless possibilities are really possible, doesn’t mean they aren’t. Be well-be beautiful.
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I was thinking the other day about what it’s like to have a wonderful experience in a store or restaurant as opposed to a not-so-good one. You know them both well, I’m sure. One thing that stands out to me, and brings the server a tip to write home to mom about, is professionalism. When it’s present, service rocks! Not so much when the server stutters through their greeting, doesn’t know the menu nor how to smile. There are boat loads of young people out there in the service industry who don’t have a clue what the word means, let alone how to act with it. So, if you find yourself receiving excellent service while boosting the anemic economy, be thankful.
Not Just for Professionals
Even if you are not in a service “profession”, there should be a certain level of upstanding mannerism coming from your person. In other words, don’t act like a fool, a tart, a know-it-all, or a bee-otch while talking to your doctor, your child’s teachers, your husband’s boss, or any other service provider you might come in contact with. Keep your cool, ladies. This used to be a hard one for me; I was, let’s say, difficult…sometimes. My body and mental state suffered from it, too. It’s that stress thing again.
You appreciate when others are accommodating and kind. Well, how you should act while interacting with people goes without saying. Understand that you never know who you might meet – what opportunities lie awaiting for you. Be well-be beautiful.
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If you want something different, do something different…anything. Color your hair; change your bedtime to an hour earlier; don’t let that bully at work push you around anymore. Change takes action – not that same old action that you’ve been taking though.
Take a look around now
Change the direction
Adjust the tuning
Try a new translation
Don’t look at your man in the same old way
Take a new picture
Just because you don’t see shooting stars
Doesn’t mean it isn’t perfect
can’t you see…
It’s the stuff that dreams are made of
It’s the slow and steady fire
It’s the stuff that dreams are made of
It’s your heart and soul’s desire
It’s the stuff that dreams are made of
Yes, those are the brilliant lyrics of singer songwriter, Carly Simon. That song saved my ass from giving up many times. There is such a simple truth in the words that you can’t deny it’s profound message. It’s my message for you today. You may not see the “new picture” right away, but keep trying; it will come. Be well-be beautiful.
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Happiness, Love, Financial Abundance, Health - all things that most women want in their lives, but what about the details? How do you know what job or mate is best for you? How do you know when it’s time to do something different? These questions are common, can be mind-boggling, and sure don’t come with stock answers. Many variables exist in our experience. One decision can make or break your future. No pressure or anything. So, really, how do you know if what you think you want is the right thing?
Here’s the thing, Ladies…you can’t. At least not completely. Every choice you make has some risk involved. There are no guarantees that the end result will please you or others. This thing called life is an adventure, isn’t it?
Let me share a couple things that might help.
Balance is really the key to knowing what will be good for you. The three parts of your being (Body, Mind, Spirit) are always fighting for attention. And, occasionally, we give into to one a little too much. You know what I’m talking about. If you don’t, try journaling your daily activities so you can see exactly how much time you spend on each area. You might be surprised. Our choices will be more productive when we are in harmony with ourselves.
Additionally, our spirits are quite capable of hearing from a Divine Higher Power (I’m not talking about your boss or overbearing sister, either). Feel free to ask questions…often. I talk to God all the time. If you are unsure about what you believe concerning spiritual issues, it’s okay to seek until you find what you are looking for. When you do, I have a feeling that those decisions won’t be so difficult to make. Be well-be beautiful.
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Someone anonymously once said, “Confidence is the feeling we have before knowing all the facts.” This quote speaks a profound truth to me: You don’t have to be perfect and completely prepared before moving into something new. Of course, it always helps being skilled, educated, and spiffed up a bit, but God knows if we waited for all of that to be completely finished, we would never do anything worthwhile.
Did you ever wonder why certain people always seem to get the job, the guy, the girl, the money, the best opportunities? Hmmm. What do you think they do differently? My guess is they have confidence in themselves and it shows. But wait. What you see may not be what is real.
There is real confidence and there is the plastic kind. Let’s address the “plastic” version first. This unfortunate character flaw is that obnoxious, toot-your-own-horn kind that spills greed and vanity all over the place. It’s a self-induced delusion of being better than others not a self-love that propels you onward.
Now, for the “real” deal.
Though it’s okay to be positive and believe that you can be more than you are, understand that you can take it too far. To keep it real, make sure that you bring “it” to the table. If you talk-the-talk, walk-the-walk. Women with real confidence don’t have to brag or show off their status; they simply be who they are. They attract personal success through this truth. So, let it come naturally, but feel free to kick it in the ass if it needs it.
What gives you confidence to take risks? To make change? Be well-be beautiful.
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Waste not-want not; isn’t that what THEY say? If the worst thing that you waste on a daily basis is the last 3 oz of Coke in the bottom of the can, you can rest with no guilt. On the other hand, wasteful thinking is, well, a waste of time and a serious matter. By that I mean: Stop thinking about all the stuff you do wrong! Here it is, Ladies; these short (300 words or less) journey tidbits are not for the faint of heart or the lazy! I mean it…get busy!
We are blessed with so much power, and what do we do, we waste it. Why?
Hell if I know.
What are we going to do about it?
Work smarter.
Mind Over Matter…Literally
I believe in this concept with all of my heart. It rings true with just about every religious belief out there and can bring results that will blow your mind! Here it is…pay attention….you’re gonna love this…
SEE IT, BELIEVE IT, REALIZE IT, HAVE IT (and I’m only on 173 words)
If you can, work with a coach on some visualization techniques. I have done this myself and have had phenomenal results. My marriage has gone from extremely troubled to peaceful and happy; my mind is filled daily with creative ideas for the blog and future endeavors; my children are acting better; financial favor is pouring in; I’m overwhelmed with joy that I have discovered this practice and it’s working!
I am currently accepting five special women to work with as I begin my Journey Coaching business. I’m offering one month of free coaching that includes one consultation call and four additional weekly phone sessions. If you are interested in this opportunity, please contact me at womenslifelink@gmail.com. Be well-be beautiful.
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Thinking creatively to some women comes easily. They don’t fight it; they don’t deny those quirky thoughts a place in their world one iota. However, for others it’s a process that compares to having the plague. Why do you suppose such a wonderful self-fulfilling part of life is avoided?
Well, truthfully the essence of creativity is scary to some because it’s dealing with something that they haven’t experienced. It’s new. It’s uncharted. It’s not about what they have already figured out.
The Risky Business of Creativity
First of all, when you create, you take a chance that other people won’t like your creation. You might get ridiculed for it, or even be hated. They might never speak to you again…or visit your blog. Wow, that’s scary. The road that you take when you think creatively is rocky and without much light. On top of that, you are bare footed. There is no protection from the exposure when you reveal your creative self.
Is It Worth the Risk?
You better believe it is.
I personally know that denying creativity is a slow way to kill a part of yourself. Regardless of the possible negative consequences, there is a whole lot of positive that comes from true, unhindered creative thinking. This is the place where inventions are discovered, brilliant art is formed, classic literature is mastered. And though not everyone will attain that level of fame from their creations, they will make some type of mark on the world if they share their work. So, I guess I’m just saying, don’t hide your creativity. Let it shine! Be who you are…no matter what. You creative people out there, please share you ideas about this topic. Be well-be beautiful.
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In simple terms stress can be defined as the body’s response to the demands put on it. Furthermore, it has no boundaries or rules; everyone responds to it differently. What is stressful to me may not be to you and visa-versa. That is why you always think Aunt Mary is overreacting when the family arrives at her home late for dinner. Deviating from her plans is a stressor for Mary but may not be for the rest of the family. So, we really have no right to tell someone that any specific situation should not be stressful. This is one of those “to each his own” scenarios.
Since it’s the beginning of a new year, I thought it might be a good time to identify some stressors in my life. I came up with the following:
• Excessive noise and confusion
• Being overwhelmed with housework
• Feeling uninformed about something
• Headaches
It’s a short list…thank God. For the most part I stay calm and positive about the events of my life. However, the above four things can send me to the moon with erratic behavior if I don’t get the chance to remove myself from them. These stressors are serious for me. But by identifying them, I have the upper-hand at prevention. Go ahead and give yourself five minutes to pin-point your stressors. Don’t forget to write them down. When you’ve done that, you can try harder to avoid them or at least minimize them.
This self-improvement step is important for busy women as we have so much on our plates most of the time. Give yourself time to process what you discover. Meditate or pray about how you can reduce the stress in your life. Be well-be beautiful.
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Though I could talk for hours on this subject, I’ll just give you a few minutes of chattering. Human nature is complex, and yet, so simple. The complex parts drive us to reach new heights of success in science, medicine, athletics, literature, and technology. Our world is full of these examples. On the other hand, it’s also full of mishaps, mistakes, and failures. Here’s the simple part of our beings: We are not perfect. There I said it. It’s out of the bag now. We are destined to screw up now and then…however, there is a simple (I didn’t say easy) solution to this common dilemma. REDO.
OK, just so we get this straight, I never promised you a rose garden. Redoing or using a second chance to make something right isn’t always full-proof. It could take several. Hello, work! Now, when I say work, I don’t necessarily mean the kind of toil that requires sweat. Think more of it as inner work.
When we have a set back, we often want to keep pushing the universal boundaries by doing the same thing over and over again. Really? Yes, really; we’re pretty insane like that. How about instead of repeating our mistake, we try getting some advice first. Ask and you shall receive. Drop your pride for just a minute. Take some time to seek answers through prayer or meditation. Being open to divine inspiration and even the wisdom of others is a step toward true success no matter what the issue is.
One last thing, before you move on to redos and second chances, make sure that you are not making important decisions when you are emotionally compromised. Calm down; breathe; be thankful. OK, now you’re ready. Be well-be beautiful.
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