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As a long time migraine sufferer, I have experienced days that are fairly normal and those that would be crossed out from universal existence…given a choice. The constant motion of my life, the ups and downs remind me of being on a teeter-totter as a child. (I hated it then, too.) That said, I now understand that the ebb and flow of life, whether you are a chronic pain sufferer or not, is here to stay. None of us will ever experience the perfect life without challenges, tragedies, and pain. Some of us are just a little more acquainted with the downward thrust of the cliche kiddie ride. Migraine has held me back at times but has also made me a stronger, more resilient and compassionate woman. I understand when someone hurts. I feel their pain as if it were my own. This phenomenon is likely due to the fact that I’ve experienced so much of it myself. In this case, my pain makes me a better human being, a better life coach.
Finding Balance
A child, who wants to ride a real teeter-totter, tries to find another kid who matches his or her size and weight so the experience is fun and safe. Right? Who remembers what happens when the other kid is much heavier or much lighter and jumps on the end without much thought? Yeah, it isn’t pretty. Well, I’ve come to the conclusion that, just as with the ride, life balance is imperative for us all if we want to have fun, especially for migraine club members. Whenever I get out of balance and begin to allow the pain and sensitivity to take over, I crash to the ground with extreme force. But, when I take one day, one hour, at a time (positioning all the players) by not succumbing to my health challenges, something amazing happens…I feel balance. This is not always easy, but it is possible with practice and by focusing on the middle space between the sky and the ground. This is a place where joy and peace happens.
Finding balance isn’t necessarily in the big things or events of life, it’s in the small things. If something brings you negative thoughts and feelings consistently, remove it, if you can. Our family drinks bottled water, so we always have a couple of cases in our pantry. For everyone else this storage method works; however, for me, it stinks. My husband leaves the cases on the floor. Because of this, I have to bend over to reach the bottles. Though this simple action is insignificant to most, it can be a migraine trigger for me. So, one day I decided to stop getting upset about this stupid little thing and take action that would make it go away. I picked up the case, emptied it out on the shelf, and lined the bottles up for easy access. Duh! I know this sounds stupid but, for some reason, I just allowed the situation to continue without doing anything about it. Why do we do that? Why do I do that? Anyway, it’s resolved now. That “splinter” in my teeter-totter is no longer able to do physical or emotional harm to me.
Noting Progress
I believe that each of us is responsible for understanding our bodies and our present state of health. We owe it to ourselves to recognize when our actions, thoughts, and emotions cause both steps forward and backward. In other words, noting progress (or decline) is important to our sanity and, ultimately, to the successful beating of this disease. There is no other way to appropriately educate family and friends about where we are with our illness unless we know ourselves. A simple journal is a great place to jot down facts, feelings, new treatments, pros, cons, and whatever else is helpful for you to keep tabs on your life. Doctors appreciate this, too!
Cause And Effect
Recently, I changed the way I think about headaches and chronic pain. Instead of always blaming my body and the “horrible” hand I’ve been dealt, I began to consider that my body is trying to tell me something…something is wrong, that is. Every living thing on the planet has a built in need to survive. If that is true, then our beings know when there is imbalance and an invasion of things that don’t belong, and they fight to ensure that life goes on. The body is powerful and intricate. It shows us pain because it is fighting for justice and balance. So, my “why me and why is this happening to me?” became, “what imbalance is causing this pain?” and “what can I do to change it?”. I don’t always get a definitive answer, but it’s a work in progress.
No matter what, we have the power to live fulfilling and happy lives, if we don’t allow the symptoms of imbalance to take over. This shift has made more difference to me than any medication, therapy, food plan, or counseling combined. Bottom line, take your life back by embracing what “is” and allowing your body to communicate in the way it needs to. It is only then we can truly find health and the life we desire.
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My friends, sorry for the lapse between posts. I’ve been a little preoccupied by some personal medical stuff. My neurologist is playing racket ball with an MS diagnosis. Needless to say, I’m a little freaked out. As if chronic migraine wasn’t enough to deal with…right? I will keep you posted as I get more information.
I now have new empathy for those of you who suffer from multiple illnesses simultaneously. I guess I never thought it would happen to me…at least not until I was much older. I’m not going to tell you that I’m strong or some amazing person who can withstand all of this without emotional trauma, because I would be lying if I did. Life is not fun right now, and I feel like I’m losing my mind at least ten times a day. On the bright side, I’m getting qualified to get Botox injections for the chronic migraine. And we all know what the fringe benefit of that will be…goodbye forehead wrinkles and frown lines! In the meantime, I continue my natural remedies as I can….unfortunately, they don’t seem to make much of a difference.
Creativity is still flowing. I have been working on plans to open a small booth at an antique mall in June. It has kept me distracted from everything else that I really don’t want to think about. The problem I’m having is that I want to keep all the really good vintage items for myself! I will do an official post about all of that later. For now, I’m just happily wallowing in my collection of finds. I will try to post more often again as I have the energy.
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As much as I really don’t enjoy thinking about negative things, let alone writing about them, I realized how important this post could be for someone (or a few someones) out there. Hunkered down under my comforter at midnight, I began to ponder exactly what have been the top three hindrances to the success level I desire in any given area of my life. A little too heavy for pre-sleep, but the thoughts were pushing their way out and not taking NO for an answer.
This is what spilled out onto my nice Ralph Lauren pillow case…
5 Life-Busters To Avoid
1. Focusing on the negative of situations, events, and people- As humans, we often pick up on what’s “wrong” with something before we look at what’s ultimately good and pure about it. Why? Not sure, really. This could be a media phenomenon, one where we’ve been brain-washed to seek out drama and trauma. Try focusing on what good is in your life, as well as what you truly want to see happen in the future. Purify your motives for wanting change. For example: Don’t seek a new car because you hate your piece-of-crap sitting in the driveway. The negative emotion you get from thinking about your fugly car will only attract more of the same. Just saying…
2. Being ungrateful- This is somewhat related to #1, in the sense that being more attentive to the drabness of life than the goodness of it, tends to keep you in a constant state of want. It should be mandatory for everyone to spend at least a day in an economically underdeveloped country. Suddenly, we would all see just how grateful we should be for what we have.
3. Trying to control everything and everyone- Control freaks don’t usually know or believe they are as such. This is why it is so difficult to tell someone that he or she is trying to control you. You usually just get a blank stare or more control mechanisms thrown in your face. Personally, I realized that letting go of some things makes life SO mush easier. The fact is: no one can control every aspect of life or that of others nor should he or she try. Go ahead if you must, but beware of the bad karma coming around the bend.
You (and I) Can Recover
The only way to recover from any of the above life-malfunctions is to change. Yes, change YOU, change me, and our way of thinking and reacting to what happens in our lives. First, we must be aware of our repeat offenses. And, just because we think we’re thinking positively, doesn’t mean we are. Negative motivation and fear ambush the best of intentions and the best people. We need to check our emotions at the doorway of life. In other words, be aware of what is causing us to feel or think a certain way. Awareness will open those doors faster than anything else. And, you and I will delightfully recover from past mistakes.
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There isn’t much anyone can say to comfort someone who is being stalked. Terror and the fear of the unknown dominate the thoughts of a woman who knows someone is there watching, waiting, and looking for an opportune time to pounce. The only real relief comes when the perpetrator is stopped by the law or other means. I’ve said all this to paint a picture of a problem that I believe is just as serious and causes similar negative actions. I’m talking about being stalked by your own self-doubt, fear, and negative beliefs. Please hear me out…
Just like that perv lurking in the bushes, self-defeating ideas and fears destroy your confidence to be yourself. They demand you to think twice about where you go, what you do, and whom you talk to. They actually gain control over you the longer they are allowed to roam free in your mind. If you don’t believe me, think about the last time you really wanted to do something worthwhile (something out of your comfort zone) but managed to talk yourself out of it. It could have been fear of rejection or poor self-esteem that won in the end, or it could have been someone else on the outside convinced you that your idea was ridiculous. Either way, you were a victim of a crime. One that should not have happened.
So, how do you get rid of the stalker?
The first thing you need to do is identify your perpetrator. What is it that trips you up every time you try to reach for your dream or move forward with self-improvement? Is it a past event or trauma? Is it fear of rejection? Is it lack of self-confidence? Or, all of the above? Once you know for sure what is getting in your way, you can begin to process it. By that I mean to think about how, when, and why this “thing” is disturbing your life. A part of that processing is journaling your thoughts and even talking about them with someone you trust.
As a life coach, I don’t usually focus on the distant past with clients but more deal with the present and future; however, in this case, there could be significant hindrances to moving forward buried in the years gone by. Only in these cases do I suggest opening the door to past events and traumas. That said, I believe
that anyone can improve their life by focusing on the present moment and what it is she really wants to accomplish in each area of her life. I guess the point here is this: We spend time and effort to ensure our physical safety, where possible violations are concerned. I mean, you wouldn’t walk around in the worst part of town dressed in skimpy clothing, while flashing a sign that says, please attack me, I’m a good catch! So, why do we violate ourselves with what I consider a worse infraction- self-doubt. It’s one thing if outside influences affect our lives and well-being, but when we, ourselves, are the ones doing the damage, it’s unthinkable. The fact is we are paralyzing ourselves and doing it in broad daylight!
What To Do About It: Locating Yourself
Taking back control from past unserving patterns is not easy. However, it doesn’t require years of therapy, lots of money, electric shock therapy, or reading a 5oo page instruction manual. No, it’s less complicated than that. It’s really just about locating yourself and moving forward from there.
And, with that…
You put one foot in front of the other…
As much as I hate to leave you hanging here, I’m going to break this post up into two parts. In the second part, I will address further how to eliminate these sneaky stalkers in your life. Until then, be thinking about the things that repeatedly hinder your success.
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Do you ever wake up and simply cannot get your brain to operate with clarity? I do. There are many things that can cause this type of physical dysfunction, including, lack of sleep, poor diet, stress, toxins (alcohol, medications, food additives, etc.), allergies, internal conflict, and the list goes on. And, depending on the severity of the condition, it could hinder creativity, work, home life, relationships, and even other body functions.
Brain fog is not something to ignore or cast off into the pit of “things that are annoying, but I can live with”. The fact is, you owe yourself a little more than that- take it seriously, because your body needs you to. I’m not saying you’re going to die if you don’t, just pay attention to what your body is telling you. Something is wrong; otherwise, you wouldn’t experience this short circuit of sort. Furthermore, if the condition is persistent and causing other problems, I recommend talking to your doctor about it. But if there is nothing seriously wrong with you, there are some things you can try to remedy the problem.
Brain Fog Fix #1
Possibly the most common type of mental sluggishness is the result of what you put into your body. The average American diet these days is not ideal for optimal health. Take an inventory of what you eat daily (write it down), do some research on the quality of these items, and decide what better choices you could make. I don’t believe anyone needs to eat a perfect diet. Making these “better” choices when possible will change your body and your health one meal at a time. Common sense says to limit sugar, salt, alcohol, preservatives, and high fat foods. Do also consider the possibility of a food sensitivity or allergy.
Brain Fog Fix #2
I’ve experienced times of great stress that have hindered my ability to think clearly and make decisions. Upon recognizing the emotional overload, I immediately calm myself with prayer and meditation. Just spending 15 to 20 minutes a day in a peaceful state can alleviate confusion, fear, and system overload. I recommend choosing the type of “break” that fits your lifestyle and belief system. In other words, do what works for you. The point being, just do it! Included in this category is sleep. Rest is one of the pillars of health that if not upheld will cause a series of events in your body that you don’t want to happen.
Brain Fog Fix #3
Our lives are filled with choices. Avoiding making decisions is enough to cause a glitch such as brain fog. I do understand that not all decisions and choices are to be made in a heartbeat but take time and consideration. Processing life’s problems and choices is a task that not everyone does well or with enthusiasm. If this is you, take some time to journal your thoughts and feelings about the decision at hand. Include pros and cons on both sides, as well as what the best and worst outcome your choice could bring. Also remember that it could be something quite out of your control. If so, it is time to let it go. And stop asking “why?” or “how could this happen to me?”. Be thankful for your encounter with choice and circumstance and then watch it leave right out your back door.
No matter what the reason for your brain fog, I believe there is some type of help available. For more information about how to be healthier in general see Detoxing Tips from the Experts, Detox Your Body Continued. Get some advice from your doc, counselor, or coach if you’re not making any progress.
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***The content of this post is not intended to replace professional advice from your health care provider. Women’s Life Link, it’s authors, associates, commentators, or linked sites do not claim that any information will diagnose, treat, improve, or cure any disease or condition.
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Did you ever wonder why bad things happen to good people? To YOU? And, do you tend to blame either others, God or the devil for those misfortunes? How about considering the alternative? Maybe we create our own drama and unserving dilemmas. I mean, come on, to blame the devil for breaking my toe, when I was foolishly walking through a dark room in the middle of the night to sneak some chocolate cake. Really? Think about it. That’s just a silly example but one that gets the point across. We choose. We act. We either succeed or we miss it. Break our toe or reach our destiny without harm. This happens every minute of our lives. I guess that our initial thoughts and choices are the catalysts for either our blessings or our curses. I can face this, can you?
How many opportunities do we have to make peace, to be productive, to make someone else happy, to create life instead of death? And, how many opportunities do we squander by blaming someone or something else for our failures. It’s time to take full responsibility for our lives, ladies. Is this what they call a “tough love” post? Not trying to be heavy or too serious here, but we really need to pay attention to our patterns of self-destruction (me too).
Here’s a few tips for staying out of the drowning pool of blaming others:
- Step back and observe your behavior. Try to be on the outside looking in not the drama queen in the middle of it.
- Realize that you create your future by what you speak, think, and do.
- Try to see the good in yourself and others first before acknowledging the negative.
- You are who and what you are by special design. You have a distinctive purpose to fulfill. There will be many “bumps in the road” along the way to your dreams and goals. This is a part of life…period.
- If you catch yourself enlisting others to be on “your side” of a conflict, this might be a clue that you’re dodging personal responsibility.
- When you feel overwhelmed and cheated somehow, do something that makes you feel good about yourself, like a creative hobby, sport, or talking to a trusted friend or mentor.
- Seek God or your higher power for spiritual breakthroughs by asking what you can do to change the situation. And if there is nothing to be done, move forward with acceptance and a positive attitude. Asking “why” isn’t always productive and can cause more self-doubt and even a spiritual breach.
- It’s OK to get support, but be careful not to only seek approval for your opinions and actions.
- Keep in mind “not everything is of the devil, mama,” as Adam Sandler’s character said so eloquently in the movie, Waterboy.
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There are so many cliches flying around where creativity and mental ability are concerned. For example: “Practice makes perfect,” or “If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it,” or “Just do it,” or “Invention is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.” Well, though all of these sayings have there place and a sense of truth all their own, sometimes we just need someone to tell us what to do to makes something better. I’m going to share some tips that I use to keep my mind and spirit sharp, so when I want to be creative, I am on point.
“The big myth is that the right side of the brain is somehow a creativity bull’s-eye. That’s not the case, and doesn’t have anything to do with handedness. You need resources from both sides of your brain to be creative. All people use both sides of the brain.” —David Wolman
Mind Sharpeners
- Do Crossword Puzzles - Yes, I’m a crossword junkie. I watched my grandmother and mother work them all the time when I was a child. I figure I could be addicted to far worse things. It’s not like I spend hours filling in those boxes…just about 20 minutes a day is all I need. The more I do them, the faster I get and the tighter my memory becomes. Any activity that engages mind, memory, language, and your hands helps to keep both sides of your brain active and sharp. To help activate your right brain even more, use color pencils and decorate your puzzle when it’s complete.
- Purposely take in the details of your surroundings as much as you can - Colors, the details of the faces, clothing, and mannerisms of those around you, the smells, the lighting, the sounds. Is there music, people talking, dogs barking, a baby crying? Then, when you leave that place, try to recall as many details as you can, even write them down or sketch the scene. This exercise is a wonderful way to increase memory and generate vivid clarity when you DO remember things.
- People watch - Yes, sit on a bench at the mall or park and just watch people. See how they are different from you, from each other or what they have in common with you. Again, as in #3, take in the details of how they look, act, smell, sound. Try to connect these experiences with an emotion. For example, if an elderly woman reminds you of your own grandmother, think of a time when you were with her and felt a strong emotion. I guarantee you will be able to recall your little time sitting in the park people watching with clarity. Connecting emotions to thoughts and experiences is a key to keeping the mind sharp and active.
Spirit Strengtheners
- Connect with your spiritual higher power as often as you can - Having an open heart to God and the universe will only increase your own ability to know love and peace in your life. However you choose to make this connection is totally up to you, however. I like to both pray and meditate, and just have simple one-on-one chats with God every day. If you don’t have a belief in a higher power, then simply allow yourself to be grateful for your life and the fact that you are here on the planet. Reach deeper within yourself with each time you take time to center. Be open for new spiritual experiences and creative ideas no matter what religion or lack there of. Above all, use this time to bring more love, clarity, and understanding into your life.
- Keep a journal of your moments with Spirit, with God, or with yourself - I’ve gleaned so much wisdom and understanding from rereading my old journal entries. Sometimes ideas and inspiration is not for that moment but for a time to come. Try different mediums for recording your thoughts. One time use language, the next draw or paint, the next record your voice or sing. The extra creative effort gives you a connection between your spirit and creative expression. This usually brings a strong sense of joy and peace, again, the emotions play a key role in engaging the mind/spirit teamwork that takes us beyond where we thought we could go creatively.
- Listen to music - This is one of my favorite things to do in the whole world. I think I would die if I couldn’t soak in the beautiful melodies so many have created. I like a wide variety of music genres, but my favorites are jazz/blues and acoustic guitar and piano ballads. I listen deeply to the lyrics, the chords, the details that you could miss if you don’t quiet your mind and your surroundings. I try to predict where the melody is going if I’ve never heard the song before. This is really a mathematical exercise since music is really based on a math scale. There are only so many logical places that a song can go within a certain key. Your mind will make the the most logical choice if you allow it to lead. I do realize that the ability to do this may be a gift and not everyone can do it, but you might give it a try anyway. Just pay attention in a deeper way next time you listen to music.
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(1) Fine: Women use this word to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say “you’re welcome, that will bring on a “whatever”.
(8) Whatever: Is a woman’s way of saying F— YOU!
(9) Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking “What’s wrong?” For the woman’s response refer to # 3.
* Send this to the men you know. They need a clue…
* Send this to all the women you know to give them a good laugh, cause they know it’s true!!!
Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. – Harriet Tubman
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Wow, so I just got home from a “headache holiday” (a week stay in the hospital.) And, go figure I can’t get a wink of sleep to save my life. I’m supposed to be resting, and, well, it’ s like 4 A.M. and I’m still tying desperately to fall asleep. I’m not sure what triggered my inability to snooze…maybe it’s the lack of lingering latex and sour body scent from the understated hospital room. Or, it could be the lack of BP checks and injections of Dilaudid and Haldol…..hmmmm, I wonder, as I type this mad little post with about 1,000 uninhibited mistakes that I’m acutely aware of. I’m not that tired…yet.
OK, so I thought I’d share what all I’ve creatively tried to aid my dilemma.
- Sit out in thunderstorm: Yes, let the mist hit you in the face. And, you have to let your face light up like a light bulb with every lightning strike…just so the neighbors can see you. Maybe they have insomnia, too.
- Massacre a watermelon: Using the word lightly here. It’s not like you have to hang it up and go all Harry-Carry on it. Just violate it the regular way. You know, with a French chef’s knife, down the middle, ripe, flesh oozing all over the counter.
- Eat the watermelon: This only is good if you actually wanted it and didn’t just feel obligated because you just cut it up into neat, little cubes.
- Sketch out how you want your next haircut to look. Oh, yeah, and add some color for fun. Seriously. The tired mind is more flexible. You might come up with a knockout do!
- Probe your 13-year-old son as to why he’s not asleep at 4 A.M..
- Make a yummy plate of nachos…that is if you didn’t scarf down the entire watermelon and still have room.
- Start a diary: This is a particular good one if your doctor has asked you to record unusual sleep patterns, pain, diet, and/or machete-like tendencies toward helpless fruit.
- See just how many people actual do snore in your house. Warning: you might one of the snorers. Hopefully, not while you’re awake.
Well, I’m going to give the snore-fest another try here. Hope you all are well and sleeping normally. If not, maybe one of these quirky remedies will work for you.
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Straight to the point today with a Power 3oo! Happiness, joy, bliss, peace, and love are all emotions that fuel a fulfilling life. But what happens when none of these show up regularly? Well, the opposite: sadness, anger, anxiety, hate, dissatisfaction – a life that lacks substance and purpose. While you can do many things to add a little joy to your day, these three things are more than quick pick-me-ups; they are lifestyle adjustments that move you and the Universe to actively change your life.
Thing #1: Regular Exercise and Stretching – I know it’s been said, and said, and said some more; however, did you pay attention? Did I pay attention? Maybe. Maybe not. Two points with this “thing”: First, regular exercise (3 + times per week) produces endorphins (feel-good hormones) that actually combat depression and melancholy. And secondly, it keeps that body in great shape! In other words, if you know you look good, your attitude is WAY more likely to be positive. Bonus Joy: find a workout that you enjoy!
Thing #2: Introspection – Taking the time to reflect on your day before you go to bed is one way to combat confusion, anxiety, and ill-feelings about another person. I find the best way to begin an introspection is to ask yourself a question that is not easily answered by “yes” or “no”. Write it down in a journal, and start spilling your guts. Don’t forget to recognize your negative emotions and even your wrongdoings. Admitting fault and taking responsibility for your actions and words WILL bring positive life change.
Thing #3: Creativity – Whether you think so or not, we are all creative beings. We are wired to see, develop, and master creative abilities within ourselves. This doesn’t mean that you have to take up oil painting or sculpturing. Creativity comes in endless forms and mediums. With the infinite possibilities available, self-expression should not be a problem.
Key: You just have to try!
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I posted a powerful video yesterday about the drug industry’s deception concerning antidepressants and mental illness. Today I thought it fitting to piggyback that post with this compelling article by Dr. Joseph Mercola. He is one of my favorite authorities on health and wellness because he writes the facts. Dr. Mercola is not afraid to spill the beans about conspiracies or holes in our health care system. If you want the truth and some solid health advice, I recommend subscribing to his posts (see info at bottom). Indeed, The Doctor Is In!
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If You Can’t Beat Depression, This Could be Why
By Dr. Joseph Mercola
Researchers examined the performance of germ-free mice, who lack gut bacteria, on a kind of maze used to test anxiety-like behaviors. The maze is in the shape of a plus with two open and two closed arms; normally, mice will avoid open spaces to minimize the risk of being seen by predators.
Normal mice, as expected, spent far more time in the closed arms when placed in the maze. The germ-free mice, however, entered the open arms far more often, spending significantly more time there than in the closed arms.
According to the study in Neurogastroenterology & Motility, when they examined the animals’ brains, they found that:
“these differences in behavior were accompanied by alterations in the expression levels of several genes in the germ-free mice. … Bacteria colonize the gut in the days following birth, during a sensitive period of brain development, and apparently influence behavior by inducing changes in the expression of certain genes.”
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Most people fail to realize that your gut is quite literally your second brain, and actually has the ability to significantly influence your:
- Mind
- Mood
- Behavior
So while modern psychiatry still falsely claims that psychological problems such as depression are caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain, researchers keep finding that depression and a variety of behavioral problems actually appear to be linked to an imbalance of bacteria in your gut!
Germ-Free Mice Engage in High-Risk Behavior
In the featured study published last month in Neurogastroenterology & Motility, mice that lack gut bacteria were found to behave differently from normal mice, engaging in what would be referred to as “high-risk behavior.” This altered behavior was accompanied by neurochemical changes in the mouse brain.
According to the authors, microbiota (your gut flora) may play a role in the communication between your gut and your brain, and:
“Acquisition of intestinal microbiota in the immediate postnatal period has a defining impact on the development and function of the gastrointestinal, immune, neuroendocrine and metabolic systems. For example, the presence of gut microbiota regulates the set point for hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis activity.”
The neurotransmitter serotonin activates your hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis by stimulating certain serotonin receptors in your brain. Additionally, neurotransmitters like serotonin can also be found in your gut. In fact, the greatest concentration of serotonin, which is involved in mood control, depression and aggression, is found in your intestines, not your brain!
So it actually makes perfect sense to nourish your gut flora for optimal serotonin function as it can have a profound impact on your mood, psychological health, and behavior.
The authors concluded that:
“[T]he presence or absence of conventional intestinal microbiota influences the development of behavior…”
This conclusion adds support to another recent animal study, which also found that gut bacteria may influence mammalian early brain development and behavior. But that’s not all. They also discovered that the absence or presence of gut microorganisms during infancy permanently alters gene expression.
Through gene profiling, they were able to discern that absence of gut bacteria altered genes and signaling pathways involved in learning, memory, and motor control. This suggests that gut bacteria is closely tied to early brain development and subsequent behavior. These behavioral changes could be reversed as long as the mice were exposed to normal microorganisms early in life. But once the germ-free mice had reached adulthood, colonizing them with bacteria did not influence their behavior.
According to Dr. Rochellys Diaz Heijtz, lead author of the study:
“The data suggests that there is a critical period early in life when gut microorganisms affect the brain and change the behavior in later life.”
In a similar way, probiotics have also been found to influence the activity of hundreds of your genes, helping them to express in a positive, disease-fighting manner.
The Gut-Brain Connection
When you consider the fact that the gut-brain connection is recognized as a basic tenet of physiology and medicine, and that there’s no shortage of evidence of gastrointestinal involvement in a variety of neurological diseases, it’s easy to see how the balance of gut bacteria can play a significant role in your psychology and behavior as well.
With this in mind, it should also be crystal clear that nourishing your gut flora is extremely important, from cradle to grave, because in a very real sense you have two brains, one inside your skull and one in your gut, and each needs its own vital nourishment.
Interestingly, these two organs are actually created out of the same type of tissue. During fetal development, one part turns into your central nervous system while the other develops into your enteric nervous system. These two systems are connected via the vagus nerve, the tenth cranial nerve that runs from your brain stem down to your abdomen. This is what connects your two brains together, and explains such phenomena as getting butterflies in your stomach when you’re nervous, for example. (For an interesting and well-written layman’s explanation of this connection, read through Sandra Blakeslee’s 1996 New York Times article Complex and Hidden Brain in Gut Makes Stomachaches and Butterflies.)
Your gut and brain work in tandem, each influencing the other. This is why your intestinal health can have such a profound influence on your mental health, and vice versa.
As a result, it should be obvious that your diet is closely linked to your mental health. Furthermore, it’s requires almost no stretch of the imagination to see how lack of nutrition can have an adverse effect on your mood and subsequently your behavior.
Have We Become Too Sanitized for Our Own Sanity?
Another study published last year in the Archives of General Psychiatry reviewed the evidence for signs that psychiatric problems might be caused by lack of natural microorganisms in soil, food, and the gut. And it did find such a link.
Rates of depression in younger people have steadily grown to outnumber rates of depression in the older populations, and one reason for this could be the lack of exposure to bacteria, both outside and inside your body.
Quite simply, modern society may have gotten too sanitized and pasteurized for our own good.
Fermented foods have been traditional staples in most cultures, but modern food manufacturing, with its focus on killing ALL bacteria in the name of food safety, has eliminated most of these foods. You can still find traditionally fermented foods like natto or kefir, but they’re not the dietary staples they once used to be, and many people don’t like them when trying them out for the first time in adulthood.
When you deprive your child of all this bacteria, her immune system—which is her primary defense system against inflammation—actually gets weaker, not stronger. And higher levels of inflammation are not only a hallmark of heart disease and diabetes, but also of depression.
The authors explain it as follows:
“Significant data suggest that a variety of microorganisms (frequently referred to as the “old friends”) were tasked by coevolutionary processes with training the human immune system to tolerate a wide array of non-threatening but potentially proinflammatory stimuli. Lacking such immune training, vulnerable individuals in the modern world are at significantly increased risk of mounting inappropriate inflammatory attacks on harmless environmental antigens (leading to asthma), benign food contents and commensals in the gut (leading to inflammatory bowel disease), or self-antigens (leading to any of a host of autoimmune diseases).
Loss of exposure to the old friends may promote major depression by increasing background levels of depressogenic cytokines and may predispose vulnerable individuals in industrialized societies to mount inappropriately aggressive inflammatory responses to psychosocial stressors, again leading to increased rates of depression.
… Measured exposure to the old friends or their antigens may offer promise for the prevention and treatment of major depression in modern industrialized societies.”
Researchers around the World have Linked Gut Problems to Brain Disorders
Brain disorders can take many forms, one of which is autism. In this particular area you can again find compelling evidence of the link between brain and gut health. For example, gluten intolerance is frequently a feature of autism, and many autistic children will improve when following a strict gluten-free diet. Many autistic children also tend to improve when given probiotics, either in the form of fermented foods or probiotic supplements.
Dr. Andrew Wakefield is just one of many who have investigated the connection between developmental disorders and bowel disease. He has published about 130-140 peer-reviewed papers looking at the mechanism and cause of inflammatory bowel disease, and has extensively investigated the brain-bowel connection in the context of children with developmental disorders such as autism.
A large number of replication studies have also been performed around the world, by other researchers, confirming the curious link between brain disorders such as autism and gastrointestinal dysfunction. For a list of more than 25 of those studies, please see this previous article.
Other Health Benefits of Probiotics
Your body contains about 100 trillion bacteria — more than 10 TIMES the number of cells you have in your entire body. Ideally, the ratio between the bacteria in your gut is 85 percent “good” and 15 percent “bad.”
In addition to the psychological implications discussed above, a healthy ratio of good to bad gut bacteria is essential for:
- Protection against over-growth of other microorganisms that could cause disease
- Digestion of food and absorption of nutrients
- Digesting and absorbing certain carbohydrates
- Producing vitamins, absorbing minerals and eliminating toxins
- Preventing allergies
Signs of having an excess of unhealthy bacteria in your gut include gas and bloating, fatigue, sugar cravings, nausea, headaches, constipation or diarrhea.
What Interferes With Healthy Gut Bacteria?
Your gut bacteria do not live in a bubble; rather, they are an active and integrated part of your body, and as such are vulnerable to your lifestyle. If you eat a lot of processed foods, for instance, your gut bacteria are going to be compromised because processed foods in general will destroy healthy microflora and feed bad bacteria and yeast.
Your gut bacteria are also very sensitive to:
- Antibiotics
- Chlorinated water
- Antibacterial soap
- Agricultural chemicals
- Pollution
Because of these latter items, to which virtually all of us are exposed at least occasionally, it’s generally a good idea to “reseed” the good bacteria in your gut by taking a high-quality probiotic supplement or eating fermented foods.
Tips for Optimizing Your Gut Bacteria
Getting back to the issue of inflammation for a moment, it’s important to realize that an estimated 80 percent of your immune system is actually located in your gut, which is why you need to regularly reseed your gut with good bacteria.
Additionally, when you consider that your gut is your second brain AND the seat of your immune system, it becomes easy to see how your gut health can impact your brain function, psyche, and behavior, as they are interconnected and interdependent in a number of different ways—several of which are discussed above.
In light of this, here are my recommendations for optimizing your gut bacteria.
- Fermented foods are still the best route to optimal digestive health, as long as you eat the traditionally made, unpasteurized versions. Healthy choices include lassi (an Indian yoghurt drink, traditionally enjoyed before dinner), fermented milk such as kefir, various pickled fermentations of cabbage, turnips, eggplant, cucumbers, onions, squash and carrots, and natto (fermented soy).If you regularly eat fermented foods such as these that, again, have not been pasteurized (pasteurization kills the naturally occurring probiotics), your healthy gut bacteria will thrive.
- Probiotic supplement. Although I’m not a major proponent of taking many supplements (as I believe the majority of your nutrients need to come from food), probiotics are definitely an exception. I have used many different brands over the past 15 years and there are many good ones out there. I also spent a long time researching and developing my own, called Complete Probiotics, in which I incorporated everything I have learned about this important tool over the years. If you do not eat fermented foods, taking a high quality probiotic supplement is definitely recommended.
***The content of this post is not intended to replace professional advice from your health care provider. Women’s Life Link, it’s authors, associates, commentators, or linked sites do not claim that any information will diagnose, treat, improve, or cure any disease or condition.

We have a guest post for you today by travel writer, Danielle Aldulescu. If you ever thought it impossible to lose weight while on vacation, think again. Danielle gives the 411 on some chic holidays for those who want to slim down and have a blast while doing it!
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The Benefits of a Weight Loss Holiday
By Danielle Aldulescu
A recent NHS study revealed that almost a quarter of adults in England are clinically obese, with a Body Mass Index (BMI) of at least 30kg/m2. Even more are overweight (a BMI of 25-30 kg/m2) and the problem certainly isn’t restricted to the UK. Obesity is on the rise throughout the developed world, with comparable or higher levels in most of Europe and the USA.
This rise in obesity carries with it all sorts of associated issues, from serious health concerns including increased risk of heart disease, strokes and diabetes to issues of self-esteem and appearance. It’s little wonder then that so many people are desperate to lose weight. Fad diets and miracle pills are offered up as quick-fix solutions but the truth is that the only way to lose weight and keep it off is to adapt a healthy diet and lifestyle.
This can be difficult and many people struggle with issues of motivation in the face of stressful modern lifestyles. A basic lack of knowledge of stress and health management can also hinder long-term weight loss goals, and many people are finding that weight loss holidays can help kick-start or augment their healthy lifestyle changes.
What is a weight loss holiday?
A weight loss holiday is quite simply a holiday where relaxation is combined with weight loss and fitness goals. Generally they are less structured and extreme than fitness boot camps, but with a little more guidance and assistance on tap than a traditional spa break, with all the facilities and knowledgeable, well-trained staff ready to help you achieve that first step in adopting a healthier lifestyle, or to help assess and fine-tune any regimen already in place.
A well-run weight loss holiday should certainly see you lose some weight over the time you are there, but it shouldn’t be seen as a quick-fix solution. The ultimate goal should be to help facilitate a long-term healthier lifestyle that will lead to the pounds dropping off and, more importantly, staying off.
Stress and Health Management
You may have decided that you need a healthier lifestyle, but it can be difficult to affect major lifestyle changes without help. Modern lifestyles can be extremely stressful and stress can lead to overeating cycles and unhealthy choices. It’s difficult to find those spare hours to spend in the gym if you have deadlines to meet or a family to look after, but staff on a fitness break can offer useful help and advice when it comes to stress and health management.
Stress-busting treatments and fitness courses will be available over the course of your stay, but you will also receive tips and routines that you can take back home with you and apply to your daily life.
What treatments are available?
All manner of treatments will be available and could include:
- Exercise programs
- Personal training
- Health assessments
- Tailored diets and menus
- Yoga
- Detox plans
- Spa treatments
Where to go for a weight loss break:
Weight loss breaks and holidays are becoming popular throughout the world, from purpose-built resorts in the USA to specialist hotels in Hungary, Spain and the UK.
In the United States, Vermont’s Green Mountain at Fox Run claims to be “the country’s first and only non-diet healthy weight loss retreat for women only”, but even a cursory online search will turn up many alternative locations for men and women alike.
In the UK, companies such as Slimmeria offer luxury retreats in country-house accommodation while, further afield, Danubius Hotels offers a range of well-appointed, health-orientated hotels in locations including Hungary, Romania and the Czech Republic.
As with other good weight loss holiday destinations, they will offer you the chance to rejuvenate and re-motivate, or to kick-start a healthy change that will stay with you for life.
Danielle is a travel writer who specializes in researching and recommending the best weight loss holidays offers.
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I have a treat for you today, a post from Dr. Bonnie! She outlines the significance and commonplace of how heartache can actually lead to physical pain and disease. Learn from one of the best relationship experts in the world here on Women’s Life Link!
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Heartbreak Means Physical Pain
By Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil
Most of use “physical” language to describe our feelings when going through an emotionally tough time. And a new study shows there’s a reason for that – according to the LA Times: “In our brains, too, physical and social pain share much the same neural circuitry. In many ways, in fact, your brain may scarcely make a distinction between a verbal and physical insult.”
The research, conducted by psychologist Nathan Dewall at the University of Kentucky reveals that we feel and respond to social exclusion at least once a day on average. He says that’s actually a big deal, but one that tends to get downplayed by friends and colleagues and even ourselves. However, the human brain has only allocated one system for feeling and processing this pain – the same system our brain and body uses to process physical pain. “Instead of creating an entirely new system to respond to social hurt, evolution piggybacked the system for emotional pain onto that for physical pain,” DeWall says. The research shows that two regions of the brain which were previously only credited with processing physical pain come alive when someone looks at a picture of an ex and thinks about how they felt about the breakup.
While I typically encourage people to work through their differences and make a relationship work– especially a long-term committed relationship or marriage – it’s true that sometimes things just fall apart, for a variety of reasons. Once this happens it can be helpful to know that it’s not absurd or out of the ordinary to deal with a literal feeling of heartbrokenness. Yet often I find that people are almost too willing to throw in the towel, which can – as this study shows – actually result in more pain in the long run. Of course, the converse is that staying in a bad relationship can cause pain of its own and I’m certainly not advocating that everyone everywhere should stick out whatever relationship they’re in, no matter how miserable.
Like I talk about in my book, Make up Don’t Break up, if both parties admit there are problems before the relationship gets to a dire point, and both people are willing to put effort into putting things back together, it’s in this type of situation that I believe most relationships are salvageable.
Committing to saving a troubled relationship can produce problems of its own but one top tip I give to people both in my book and in my practice is to develop a habit of engaging in respectful but honest exchanges where both people have the opportunity to share their concerns, frustrations, fears and concerns about the relationship without fear of judgment or retribution. Making this a routine practice in a relationship can help ensure longevity – and less pain!
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Her book, Make Up Don’t Break Up recently won the New York Times “Relationship Book of the Year” award. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)Mother Your Man and How to Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker (Making Money Sexy).
Let’s face it, there are just some things that your significant other NEEDS to understand about you. And, these “things” are not always obvious. In other words, YOU have to spill the beans! Remember, how you communicate these “5 things” will determine how well they are received. If you’re already frustrated in any of the 5 areas, you might be tempted to argue or forcefully demand your partner to listen and comply. Not the best way to talk about (maybe for the first time) a potentially sensitive subject. Try a neutral setting (park, coffee shop, on a walk…) to bring up a delicate conversation that focuses on the facts.
Number 1: A little about your basic temperament. The more your partner knows about your personality and your innate tendencies, the more successful emotional navigation will be. There are four basic temperament types: Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic, and Phlegmatic. Each of these temperaments have specific traits that can affect one’s behavior and attitudes. Though each temperament is unique, the lines blur a little if you have a combination of two or more of the four. To be sure which one you are, you will probably need to take an assessment. It might be fun to take the assessment together, so you both get the 411!
Number 2: Your sexual yays and nays. If you want to watch your relationship go to hell in your stylish handbag, then DON’T share your sexual needs with your partner. Yes, it’s that important. You are a one-of-a-kind woman with equally unique needs in the bedroom. Don’t leave this one to chance. Take every opportunity to share your desires (even the secret fantasies) with your partner. It’s more embarrassing to fail at love-making than it is to talk about how to improve this integral part of your relationship. I say smokin’ hot sex is worth it…
Number 3: Your dreams and goals. If you want to share a future with someone, it’s a good idea to open up about your future dreams and goals. Speak up about what you want out of life in general and specifically talk about family, career, health, spiritual, and intellectual goals. Having a partner who is on-board with the future you envision is far more likely to go the distance.
Number 4: Your spiritual beliefs. Though it may not be a deal-breaker, you might want to give your special someone a heads up on your core spiritual beliefs or religion. Some religions are strict about lifestyle choices and methods of worship. This is either something that you will bring you together, or it may be something that causes problems. Either way, it’s best to talk about it asap.
Number 5: Significant medical history. Okay, so you don’t need to share every detail from when you were a child, but do share important facts about current diseases, conditions, allergies, handicaps, dietary needs, etc. Trust me, you don’t want any medical conditions to come as a surprise, especially if you plan to spend the rest of your life with your partner. Also, make sure emergency medical information is accessible at all times.
Well, that’s it for now! I’m sure you can think of many more things you should talk about, so why don’t you share your ideas with us?













