Comments on: Why Am I Always Angry?

By: CLF

CLF — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 20:43:04 +0000

Thank you Kellie.. Yes, thank goodness it diddent erase it. I just finnished reading & studing your “I Dare You To Be You” book. & yes I have done most of the activitys..It was uplifting. Expecially was easier for me, bc My father has had me keep a journal sence I was young. I am so so so so very grateful to have finally found someone whom, not only understands, but whom can help..Thank you again. today was an eye opener. Im calm right now, but cannot promise myself that I wont freak out later, 2morrow, or a week from now. But yes.. this site has been most helpful.

By: Kellie R. Stone

Kellie R. Stone — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 19:14:25 +0000

Well, thankfully, it did not erase it! I got it all and it’s now live on site. Thank you for sharing your deepest thoughts and concerns with me and my readers. It’s important to be honest with yourself, and you obviously are on the right track by reaching out. Anger is a tricky thing, as you’ve discovered in your life. I’ve suffered from bouts of anger that are debilitating too. When it takes over, it can surprise you and cause despairing emotions of guilt and helplessness. So, when I say I understand, I really mean it. If you can, try to think back precisely when your anger started. You may discover there was an event or highly charged emotional trauma that triggered it. I will email you personally, as I believe I can help you more privately. Thanks again for your life link.

Kellie

By: CLF

CLF — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 17:03:10 +0000

I just poured my heart out on here about being angry & it erased it all, THAT MAKES ME EVEN MADDER………….I NEED HELP IN 29, I do not feel like retyping it all, Why does everysite do this????// I need help & having my emotions erased is not helping

By: CLF

CLF — Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:30:25 +0000

I was very enlightened when reading the opening artical. I am relived to NOT see, (go to a Dr or therapist, or take a pill, or get some “me time”.) because I have done all these things, & they do not work. I was enlightened to know that my anger may be due to unfulfilled expectations. I also need Help. Im angry when I go to sleep , when I wake, thru the whole day, if the phone rings, if someone asks a question that has been awnsered, but wasent paying attention, EVERYTHING MAKE ME MAD. I know I shouldent feel this way. I know how GOOD It feels to be happy, BUT, somehow, Lost it again. Im so sick of feeling like this. it has been going on sence childhood. & I am now 29. I get so upset over nothing that I feel this pulsing circle of pain thru my head, like a bomb went off & all I can hear is this annoying ringing, & it makes me sick/dizzy/& in the past yr have litterally passed out onto the floor & woke up UNaware of what had happend. I have 2 small children, & need to be happy for them & my husband as well as myself. I have no interest in anything anymore. Im not deppressed. I just want to be HAPPY. NOT MAD. just being mad makes me angry. I feel like im on my own,,bc noone get’s why Im like this. My family jokes about it like”ohhh I feel sorry for your husband”,,,WHY? Why do you feel sorry for him? FEEL SORRY FOR ME. Im the one who needs the help.!!!!!!!!!!! everyone always laugh’s it off like OHH just take a Happy pill…YYYEAAAAHHH, if it was that flippen easy, I WOULD. I dont want to RED OUT.. I call them red out’s cause all I feel is my whole body on fire as these rage pulses come over me. & they HURT too. It is not pleasent, I have to sit in a cold dark room to relive the burning. What is wrong with me? & just incase anyone is actually reading this, YES, I am a strong beliver in the Lord. & have a very strong relationship with Him & Jesus. A coupple yrs ago I thaught it was bc I had fallen away from Him, But now the past 7mths, these feelings are back, & IDK why. I refuse to tell family cause they tell me I overexagerate & my parent’s are getting older, I dont want to worrie them. I refuse to tell my friends bc I dont want to. & My Husband is just as confused as me. HELLLLPPPPPPP. PLEASE?

By: Kellie R. Stone

Kellie R. Stone — Mon, 07 Nov 2011 16:51:08 +0000

Your awareness is a step to healing at the core of your being. I understand how difficult it is to deal with personal issues when you have children. I have six. Things haven’t always been perfect and pleasant, but I found out a long time ago, if mom is out of balance, the whole family suffers. Your circumstances aren’t your enemy. Only what is going on deep inside of us can truly hurt us. We make choices based on internal conditions, core beliefs, and the pain or bliss that we feel. Even if we try to be logical and objective, the past can affect all that we do…unless we deal with it and heal completely. Self-improvement is not easy. If is was, everyone would be at peace, love unconditionally, and serve themselves and the world without hesitation.

The fact is, you can find peace with yourself. It’s up to you. Take one step at a time toward your healing. There is a free report called “I Dare You To Be YOU” that I offer in the right sidebar of this site. Just enter your name and email address, and you will be directed to the download. I’ve been told this report is very powerful for women to find the core of un-serving behavior and challenges. Please read it if you can. And, thank you for your honest contribution to Women’s Creative Life Link.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 19:40:28 +0000

I am always so filled with anger, and I hate it. I think I will lose custody of my two older children because of it. I was severely abused as a child until I was 17. Then I met and married a man who didn’t smack me around so I thought he was great-at first. Turns out he had different ways of being mean. I spent more than a decade being very ill with an immune disease, working all the time, becoming a mom and seeing no happiness within myself. I divorced this man, and had the two boys full time until I moved with my new husband and daughter. Now my boys have stayed with their father half a continent away and I am being accused of child abuse. I never hit my kids, and the accusations made are strange and FALSE. But what I find myself thinking of is how I took my sweet boys for granted. Always in a hurry, always telling them to hurry up. Always barking orders, get this done, be nice to your brother, don’t do that…blahblahblah. And the anger I feel within me and have for so long-why? Why couldn’t I just be happy to be what I always wanted to be-a mom? I had a wonderful gift given to me, and taken away again. I wish I could have been less angry. Stomping around all the time, muttering to myself about how life sucks. I wasn’t like that all the time, but way too much. I kills me, and I still feel anger inside-and most of it now directed at myself. Even my counselor shakes her head in bemusement at my life history and current circumstances. I just don’t know what to do anymore, and I hate the way I feel inside.

By: Kellie R. Stone

Kellie R. Stone — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 16:53:53 +0000

Hi Tracey,
It really seems like you want to make some changes in your life. That is your first step to joy and happiness. It also seems like the circumstances of your life are overwhelming you to the point you can’t seem to find a way to do that. I found a little trick along my path that enables me to get through tough times. I focus on what I want to happen instead of what I don’t. It’s like eating a bowl of ice cream when you have sensitive teeth. Even though the cold makes you uncomfortable, you choose to focus on how yummy the ice cream tastes and how satisfying it is. Does that make sense? You have many things to be thankful for and that do have the potential to bring you joy if you let them…like marriage and children.

Anger is a result of suppressed emotions, like fear and frustration. When you figure out that it is YOU that stands in your way of true joy, you will be on your way to a new perspective on life. People will always disappoint you and hurt you. Life is just that way sometimes. So, instead of trying to change others and situations, change your mind and focus on what you want out of life. YOU can do this!

By: Tracey

Tracey — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 11:55:22 +0000

One thing I forgot to add the psychiatrist said i have a chemical overload that’s why my head hurts at times as if my brain in made from tin and people’s voices are like coins bouncing of my brain. And my anger erupts ever more days before menstration begins I’m unbearable but I can’t control it if only I could : (

By: Tracey

Tracey — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 11:51:21 +0000

Hi my name is Tracey I’m 35 married and a mum.
I am a very angry frustrated horrible human I’m never happy I’m angry all the time.At night I always say tomorrow is going to be different and I hold alot of guilt due to the way I treat the ones closest to me.I’ve seen a psychiatrist and he wanted me on mood stabilizer but I didn’t take it. I just want to feel happy and at peace but to be honest my life isn’t the way I want it at all. I need change big time yet it never happens my kids seem to be taking after me there always angry so there is another thing I have guilt over I also lost my pop 4 yrs ago and my beautiful mum 2 yrs ago just 1 month before losing my mum I lost my father inlaw.as a child I had bad things happen to me I also have a father that doesn’t talk to my sister and I and If he does it only when he’s of his face. My
Sisters and I have chosen better lives for ourselves I have a good husband good kids a mortgage but I’m
Still miserable and angry all the time what do I do?? I don’t want to take drugs to stabelise my
Moods I want to do it natural. I honesty can say I hate the person I am and everytime I promise myself change I end up having a worse day that day because I’m more angry I couldn’t stick To my
Promise

By: Kellie R. Stone

Kellie R. Stone — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 18:58:28 +0000

Thanks for you honest comment. Stress is a killer when it comes to controlling your emotions. What I’ve realized is that we do have the power to control our feeling. It’s a choice that we have to make in every situation. I’ve experienced complete indifference in some bad times and being aware of how I feel, and choosing to “feel” a different way, works amazingly.