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In dating and love, being older is typically wiser. We usually know what we want when we hit the dating scene as adults. But if you thought you’d be better off having a few dating years under your belt, experience might hurt more than help.
Older daters could learn and benefit from knowing how young love works. That’s not to say you should fall as hard as you did as a teenager. But, if you’ve been out of the dating scene for a while, or your current techniques aren’t working, consider the following three things that younger daters tend to do surprisingly well!
Pacing
With some catastrophic exceptions, younger people tend to do a much better job at simply going with the flow and remembering to have fun as a couple. From taking cute photobooth snaps to giggling over a ship name generator, young love thrives on laughter.
Fast-forward a few decades, dating becomes a different matter. At this age, you may be disheartened, tired, generally pushed for time, and more likely to mention marriage than making fun memories. That can quickly steal the magic. Have you remembered to laugh on your romance quest? It could be the key to finding the right partner!
Talking it Out With Friends
Friends are your go-to for everything when you’re younger, especially when it comes to relationship problems. Whether he didn’t show up for a date, or you heard he was with another woman, friends are always the first port of call when you’re younger, and they tend to have surprisingly sage advice.
Yet, as older daters, we’re far more guilty of holding it all in. Even if you’re lucky enough to still have close friends, you may hide your dating or relationship worries for fear of embarrassment. But that lack of an outside view can leave you stuck in a bad relationship or passing up on a potentially great one. Hence, it may well be worth bringing your friends back into the dating picture, even at 50!
Cutting Him Loose If Necessary
Generally speaking, younger daters are better at cutting people loose if they notice red flags. This ensures they don’t waste their time on dating and love by choosing a bad partner. But, with time against us as older daters, we’re far more likely to ignore red flags we think we can get past. And, guess what? We usually can’t. If a guy has an annoying habit or a problematic opinion, he likely won’t change. Do as the kids do and cut him loose!
You probably don’t want to take all of your dating advice from women young enough to be your daughters, but the kids might just have it right when it comes to these essentials! It will likely pay to speak to friends or family about any relationsips you have. Getting different perspectives might be a great way to sort through concerns.
