Fear: Noun – a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain etc. whether the threat is real or imagined, the feeling or condition of being afraid.
Ego: Noun – A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance: “a boost to my ego”. The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of…
The Physical Reality of Fear
When you look into the eyes of your children, other people’s children, your pets or any animal in fact, you don’t want to see fear. You don’t want them to experience fear and you don’t want anyone to instigate the feelings of fear in them. Think about the fear you feel when you are about to go bungee jumping, or when you watch someone leap off a tall building or go over Niagara Falls in a barrel…yes, that fear in the pit of your stomach. We indulge our senses watching CSI, NCIS and the likes seeing fear in crime; victims experiencing crime. We have fears of spiders, darkness, snakes, shadows.All of the fears we believe in, the physical fears, are no doubt real. I myself have a fear of heights; it has that surreal pull that seems as though someone is beckoning me over the edge of the balcony, ledge, cliff. Or it could be that resistance to walking in dark alleys, wondering if someone lurks behind us, or if there is a dog ready to leap the fence to attack.
The Spiritual Reality of Ego
Consider acknowledging the inner fear that our egos place on us and observe that this process is similar to the creation of physical fears we experience and often try to overcome. Unworthiness, feeling unacceptable, unable, out of place, stuck, trapped, inappropriate, unskilled, unattractive, unloved; these are all just as real and limiting as any of the physical fears. The inner voice chatters away incessantly, constantly, demanding attention and our reaction. What if these “inner” fears are really the source of all physical fears? Interesting to consider.
Doing The Work
It no doubt takes time to re-align our thinking, to realize when the ego is talking and not our spiritual source, to see through the clouds of fluff and nonsense which takes us away from who we are supposed to be and who we are here to be. It comes from our truth, which Kellie talked about in her recent post, The Most Significant Change You Will Ever Experience. It requires us to be present each and every moment; feel it, breathe it and see it. Dismiss the ego’s power over us. Dismiss our ego’s limiting reactions to the negative people and energy around us. Dismiss our intention to allow fear to rule our lives.
This is the key: Try practicing thought control that abates being reactive and consider how being proactive might change the circumstances surrounding your fear. Be objective, allowing the thoughts, but try not to indulge them. Listen to the fears and let them slide past on the conveyor belt of thoughts that go through our minds by the multitude every minute of every day. When we pay attention to the ego, it is boosted, it is provided with consent to continue. Change this process and change your life.
In fact, it might serve us to jump off our cliffs, scale the heights of our tallest buildings, ride our horses, and ski our mountains to experience physical fears and to bring the mental fears holding us prison by our egos to the light. Sit down in a quiet place in nature, somewhere you love to be, and ask yourself about the things you fear, then make a decision to let them go.