A question that most women will hear multiple times in their lives is “When are you going to have children?”. For many women, this question isn’t a problem, because they know at some point they plan to do just that. For other women, the prospect of having children might not have even entered their minds. However, there are also some women who know – even from a young age – that they don’t want children. This can be for a variety of reasons, and all of them are valid!
Perhaps you’re wondering if it’s normal to not want children, or maybe you’re intrigued to know a few reasons why some women choose not to bear a child. In this post, we’re going to look at some of the reasons why not every woman wants to be a mom.
The Current State of the World
One of the biggest things to consider before bringing a baby into the world is how you’re going to raise them. Additionally, think about what kind of world you’re able to raise them in. Unless you’re independently wealthy, the only option for many new mothers is to raise their children how society dictates. With the current state of the world and economy, some women choose not to bring a child into an unstable environment.
There are many health complications that can prevent women from having children, as well as endanger their lives if they did. Furthermore, not only would carrying a baby put their life at risk, it could endanger an unborn child’s life.
Unfortunately, some women have had a rocky past and this can discourage them from feeling worthy and able to have a child. Perhaps they’ve grown up with abusive or distant parents and don’t want to replicate that behavior. Or, perhaps they have experienced something traumatic like rape, drug use, or other life complications. Many of these women seek alternatives if they do get pregnant. If they have had free abortion consultations and even gone through with a procedure, they might not be as willing to consider following through with becoming a mother.
Unmet Career and Life Goals
Some women might want a successful career and to fulfill other life goals before they even consider a family. This could be considered a wise and unselfish way to think about a life plan because raising children and building a career can be quite challenging for both the mom and the kids. Once things are settled and not so demanding, being a mom might appeal more, as there is more time to spend with family.
While parenting has changed a lot in the last fifty years or so, it’s still common for the mother to stay at home while the father/partner works. Having a baby has a level of sacrifice that can affect your social life. Some women just are not willing to miss out on being free to do what they want, when they want.
They’ve Been a Caretaker
Finally, some women may have taken care of siblings or other relatives growing up, and feel they have already given a life’s worth of caretaking. This can especially become a problem when the woman has spent a large majority – if not all – of their childhood being a caretaker rather than having the chance to simply be a child. In this case, independence is of great importance.
Whatever reason a woman has for not wanting a baby is completely valid and should be respected by those around her! So the next time you ask a woman when she’s going to have a child, consider her feelings and right to choose motherhood or not.