How many times a day do you label yourself or others around you? Face it ladies, we live in a world of titles, status, and stereotypes. Of course, it’s okay to give yourself or someone else a label of love like, good person, incredible listener, compassionate; it’s when we throw the negative out there that we hurt ourselves and our fellow humans.
Diverting Negative Labels
A couple of years ago, a new friend pointed out a mistake I was about to make. Because of debilitating headaches, I was trying to get disability benefits. Fortunately, I was denied because of my work credit status. My friend told me that it was a “blessing” that I didn’t get it; the label of “disabled” would only solidify the condition with negative reinforcement. She was right.
After being declined, I surged with determination and a new positive attitude about getting well. Just by thinking about and feeling the emotions of true health, I have stepped closer to the reality. It’s a process that takes time and consistency. You don’t just get it overnight…at least, I didn’t.
Now, how do you steer yourself away from damaging thoughts, feelings, and words? Well, first take an inventory of what you love about yourself, and then one of what you hate. The good in your life is a direct result of your positive attitude and the statements that you’ve made in the past. Now, about the bad; yeah, though harder to accept, you could be to blame for that, too.
I discovered that being neutral, not doing anything, and sitting there waiting for life to happen is not the best way to a positive outcome. Here’s a great example of how consistent positive reinforcement can make your life better-and safer: I have been driving for over 25 years now-one of the things that I have always done well. Because I consistently believe my driving abilities are excellent and speak it out, I have never been in an accident, never received a ticket and have avoided more road disasters than I can tell you. That’s an accomplishment that not many-good drivers included-can claim.
The point being, it’s not enough to just let things happen. You must take control of your life-at least the part that the universe allows you to. Say what you want; say the opposite of what you believe if that belief is negative. God, the universe, and other people will line up with your input and go above and beyond to make your vision come true. So, do yourself a favor, change your label; change your mind; change your life.