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Am I Needy?


There aren’t too many women out there who could say that they didn’t need something, whether it be clothes, kitchen utensils, a man, a job, a car; it’s human nature to expand our list of possessions.  Since early man, collecting “things” has been a form of status and authority.  Not that all women deem material property as the most important thing in their lives, but I bet most still have a home full of a whole lot of stuff.  Factually, we do need certain items to survive and thrive.  This is perfectly okay.  It’s when we become overly needy, greedy, and strive to possess more and more that we lose a sense of the valuable.

Learning To Go Forward Without Neediness

Even if you are in a situation that demands money or goods in order to be resolved, having a needy mentality is not your best method of making things better.  By that I mean a desperate, negative mindset that only begets more of the same.  Instead, try offering yourself or your gifts to others in service of their needs.  You’d be surprised how fast your attitude changes.  There will always be someone out there worse off than you are.  I know; your mom probably said that to you as a child.  Mine did to me.  Well, it’s the truth.

It’s possible that what you think you want, need, and deserve isn’t going to bring the greater good for the world or even just for yours.  Because we don’t see the big picture, at times, we can get caught up in the box…yes, that one that you live in.  Mine is bigger than it used to be, but it’s still much too small for my taste.

See Yourself As A Greater Giver

Visualizing yourself expanding beyond that “box” is a wonderful way to change the way you think about your life.  How ever you have to do this is okay.  It’s your vision – your mind.  I like to see myself flying low over the earth’s surface with a trail of energy (it’s a part of my body) that distributes a golden mist on the ground.  As it hits the people below, they light up like tiny light bulbs.  Soon, I look down and see thousands, even millions, of glowing faces.  It sounds more like a fantasy dream but yields a nice return for self-growth.

Strangely, when you let go of your needs and focus on those of others, you find unsurpassed peace and joy.  And, amazingly, your needs get met in the process.  No, you shouldn’t do for others just to cover your hide; instead, be pure of heart and sacrificial in your intentions.  It’s really the only way this spiritual law works.  Give it a try and see what happens.   I dare you.  My bet is that, at least, you will enjoy the warm, fuzzy feeling that fills your heart. Please share your experiences with giving, needing, or anything in between.  Be well-be beautiful.

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About Kellie R. Stone

"I make no excuses for my diverse roles as a Rock Your Feminine Type Coach™ and Branding Expert, best-selling author, and crime thriller novelist. Yes, I do still chuckle a bit at the irony. I kick ass as a women’s biz coach by day and kill off vulnerable fiction characters at night. What the hell, it makes for some interesting dreams. I believe that everyone should pursue their passions no matter how out there they seem to be. One of those pure heart-fluttering passions for me has always been writing. Since I did, indeed, chase my dream of being a writer, I've published two non-fiction books in the self-development genre, co-authored an international best seller, and now I'm finally pushing my much-too-old-to-be-in-the-nest novel out the door and into the world. My whole world is empowering and I adore showing others how to live life unfiltered, whether I do that through the written word or my coaching work. I love my job!" ~Kellie R. Stone

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  1. I love your post!!!

    I used to be high maintenance, I have a good job, spend a great deal of money, I procrastinate and always feel I have not achieved enough.

    I was unconscious of the great fortunes I have…Now, I wanted to make a difference!

    Check it out: http://awdreams.com/


  2. Here is what I have found. When I am giving from the “right” place, it is not a sacrifice. If I feel as if I’m making a sacrifice I re-check my motives and come to a loving place before I act. This is what I have learned: In order for me to feel truly fulfilled I have to come from a loving place. Not that I am always able to do this, but it is definitely when I get the best results and feel most at peace.

    Thank you for that great post Kellie.

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