Buying gifts for your new love can be a difficult task, especially if you’re not sure where the relationship stands. Clarity, on the other hand, will make this process a joy. I recommend simply asking him or her what they would like to receive from you as a gift. It’s straight forward and you don’t have to worry about seeming presumptuous. That said, if your new partner is somewhat mysterious and won’t tell you, here are a few things to consider.
Buying Gifts for Your New Love #1: How Long Have You Been Dating?
If you’ve been dating for a short period, say 3 weeks, I don’t recommend going overboard with lavish gifts. If you do have a mutual connection that is undeniable, try something simple that reflects an interest you both have. Concert tickets, music cd, a book, etc. The important thing is to show that you do acknowledge the connection and want to be kind.
If you think this could go somewhere deeper, include a short note or sentiment with your gift. I do believe there is a way to buy something meaningful without pushing into something that isn’t there yet. The length of time you’ve dated doesn’t necessarily dictate where the relationship is. In fact, it could be well on its way to something more very quickly.
Buying Gifts for Your New Love #2: How Often Do You See Each Other?
If you’ve been dating for a few months but your dates are sporadic and few, it is likely too soon for sentimental or expensive gifts. However, an exception might be an intense long distance relationship that is going well. If you’ve been together for a month, but haven’t left each other’s sides, this could be a signal that the relationship is in serious territory, which gives you a bit more freedom in terms of the gift you want to buy.
Staying in the $30 to $50 area should give you a good range to find something thoughtful. If he or she has mentioned a need or want lately, try doing some research online or a related website. This shows creativity and initiative to see where the relationship could go.
Buying Gifts for Your New Love#3: Have You Had Doubts Recently?
Knowing where your relationship is at all times will serve you for more than buying gifts. Consider how things are going. Are you getting along and growing closer each time you’re together? If so, this is a good sign that this new love has a chance to go beyond just dating. And, if it’s still early, let things develop naturally and don’t worry about the perfect gift. Be yourself and give what reflects your personality as well as his or her’s.
You do need to understand that this gift could be a test of your relationship and where it might go. Perhaps cooking a romantic dinner for two shows that your intentions are for more than frisbee in the park. Don’t be afraid to express what you need to. After all, the relationship is what it is. He or she either wants more or they don’t. It’s better to know where you stand than to be in the dark.