Are you always the bridesmaid but never the bride? If you’ve been with your significant other for a couple of years or longer, it’s only natural to have thoughts about a deeper commitment. Every time you get whisked away for a weekend or out to your favorite restaurant, you wonder if you will get a proposal. However, there’s no need for a 21st-century woman to continue to endure this torture. Why not take the bull by the horns and pop the question yourself? Sure, it’s the less traditional option, but it’s one that more and more women are choosing. Here are 3 advantages of women proposing marriage.
Advantages of Women Proposing Marriage #1: You Will Know Where Things Stand
There are many reasons why men don’t propose within what their partners deem to be a reasonable timeframe. Normally it has nothing to do with how much he loves his partner. Many men have a deep-seated fear of commitment regardless of how much love or time is involved. This inability to step forward is really more of a communication problem. Maybe you simply need to talk about your feelings.
Proposing to your partner first will open up a door for a conversation that needs to be had. If it doesn’t happen, you will have a really good idea that your partner is not ready to even talk about it, let alone do it. But, hopefully, the opposite happens and you can both talk freely about your expectations and desires.
Advantages of Women Proposing Marriage #2: Start a New Tradition
When a man proposes to a woman there are certain expectations and hoops he has to jump through dictated by tradition. If you buck this archaic trend, you are showing yourself and other women that it’s OK to question traditions if they don’t sit well.
Furthermore, if you don’t want to ask the parents for permission? That’s fine, you don’t have to! Don’t want to get down on one knee? That’s cool, nobody’s saying you need to! Don’t think an engagement ring suits your lover? That’s not a problem, choose something that fits your partner’s personality and lifestyle. Take the reigns and propose entirely on your own terms, making it magical in a way that’s unique to both of you.
Advantages of Women Proposing Marriage #3: Choose Your Own Engagement Ring
You see him pull out a box and, for a second, you wonder if he chose a good ring. It’s not that you’re materialistic, it’s just you have to wear this proudly for years to come. And, if you have not talked about what type of ring you would love, who knows what’s in that box…right?
Proposing to your partner first would enable you to choose your own object of commitment. In fact, it doesn’t even have to be a ring. Remember, you are your own woman with your own ideas. I highly recommend that you know what you want in advance. Check out online sites like 77 Diamonds to get a feel for what is out there.
As much as we try to couch it in tradition, there really are no rules to love. If you’re sick of waiting, shake off tradition and pop the question. It may just be the best thing you ever do.