Let’s face it, there are just some things that your significant other NEEDS to understand about you. And, these “things” are not always obvious. In other words, YOU have to spill the beans! Remember, how you communicate these “5 things” will determine how well they are received. If you’re already frustrated in any of the 5 areas, you might be tempted to argue or forcefully demand your partner to listen and comply. Not the best way to talk about (maybe for the first time) a potentially sensitive subject. Try a neutral setting (park, coffee shop, on a walk…) to bring up a delicate conversation that focuses on the facts.
Number 1: A little about your basic temperament. The more your partner knows about your personality and your innate tendencies, the more successful emotional navigation will be. There are four basic temperament types: Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic, and Phlegmatic. Each of these temperaments have specific traits that can affect one’s behavior and attitudes. Though each temperament is unique, the lines blur a little if you have a combination of two or more of the four. To be sure which one you are, you will probably need to take an assessment. It might be fun to take the assessment together, so you both get the 411!
Number 2: Your sexual yays and nays. If you want to watch your relationship go to hell in your stylish handbag, then DON’T share your sexual needs with your partner. Yes, it’s that important. You are a one-of-a-kind woman with equally unique needs in the bedroom. Don’t leave this one to chance. Take every opportunity to share your desires (even the secret fantasies) with your partner. It’s more embarrassing to fail at love-making than it is to talk about how to improve this integral part of your relationship. I say smokin’ hot sex is worth it…
Number 3: Your dreams and goals. If you want to share a future with someone, it’s a good idea to open up about your future dreams and goals. Speak up about what you want out of life in general and specifically talk about family, career, health, spiritual, and intellectual goals. Having a partner who is on-board with the future you envision is far more likely to go the distance.
Number 4: Your spiritual beliefs. Though it may not be a deal-breaker, you might want to give your special someone a heads up on your core spiritual beliefs or religion. Some religions are strict about lifestyle choices and methods of worship. This is either something that you will bring you together, or it may be something that causes problems. Either way, it’s best to talk about it asap.
Number 5: Significant medical history. Okay, so you don’t need to share every detail from when you were a child, but do share important facts about current diseases, conditions, allergies, handicaps, dietary needs, etc. Trust me, you don’t want any medical conditions to come as a surprise, especially if you plan to spend the rest of your life with your partner. Also, make sure emergency medical information is accessible at all times.
Well, that’s it for now! I’m sure you can think of many more things you should talk about, so why don’t you share your ideas with us?