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6 Golden Rules Of Starting A New Relationship

Starting a new relationship with someone is equally exciting as it is confusing. You’ve met someone who interests you and the feeling seems to be mutual. But at this initial stage, things are unsure, as you may have no idea what the other person is thinking. You may not even know for sure what you feel. What you think they might want could be the total opposite and vice versa. This could lead to stress and misunderstanding that could be easily avoided. The way you navigate the early stages of a new relationship just might determine whether it’s long term or just a fling. We all want our relationships to succeed. Fortunately, there are some things you can do at the beginning to give the romance a fighting chance. Here are my 6 golden rules that will help you enjoy your time together and give your relationship a fantastic start.

Don’t neglect your friends and family

friends-842580_640This is a common mistake that many people make when they start a new relationship. They put all their time and energy into their new partner and push their friends and family aside. This can have many negative repercussions. You can lose friends, have arguments with your family and even stop doing the things you love. It can also cause your friends and family to feel negatively about your new love interest. Which can then make them feel pressured and overwhelmed. It could also result in you wanting to spend even more time with him or her, which might appear as clingy and be too much at such an early stage. So as excited and loved up as you obviously are, always make time to nurture your interests and relationships with your friends and family. Why not plan a girls night with your girlfriends or female relatives using https://play.google.com to help you. Or you could invite some of your friends to try out a new hobby or activity. This will make everyone feel more positively about you and your partner being together. Plus it shows your new partner that you have other passions in your life, which makes you far more interesting.

Take your time

One of the easiest ways to scare someone away from a relationship is by moving too quickly. While you naturally want to shout how you feel from the rooftops, you also want to make sure your relationship develops at a healthy pace. Even if you feel like your partner is definitely the one for you, it’s no good talking about marriage and babies just yet. No matter how strongly you feel, rushing things will not do either of you any good. So refrain from declaring your love for them on social media and asking them to move in at this stage. If they aren’t ready, this over enthusiasm just might send them running for the hills. It will also take away all the romance and mystery. So take your time getting to know one another and just have fun being together. You can find a list of fun activities for new relationships at http://datingtips.match.com. There should be no ultimatums or timelines to stick to at all. You’ll have a far stronger and more enjoyable relationship if you stick to a pace you are both happy with.

Practice safe sex

imagesIf you’re intending to start a sexual relationship with your new love, safe sex is something you absolutely must do. It can be easy to get caught up in the romance and spontaneity that a new relationship can bring. This is absolutely fine if you’re both are consenting adults, but you need to consider the consequences, too. Not using condoms or other contraception could lead to sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. Pregnancy is probably not something you want after such as short time. You also can’t know for sure if you or your partner is clear from STD’s without a test. STD’s can go undetected for a long time and you may not even realize you have one. Plus you have no idea who your new partner has slept with before. So use http://www.saferstdtesting.com to book an appointment for you both to get tested. Do this before you start sleeping together if you can. This will put your mind at ease and help you deal with any STD’s, should you have any. Otherwise, you increase the chances of passing it on or developing one yourself. If you both come back clear and don’t want to use condoms, consider an alternative form of contraception instead.

Set some boundaries

Some people enjoy public displays of affection, whereas others find it extremely uncomfortable. Don’t just presume that your partner feels the same way about it that you do. We all have different boundaries and unless you tell them what they are, they will never know. It’s important to be vocal if PDA makes you feel anxious so your partner knows how to make you feel comfortable and at ease. Otherwise, they may think you no longer like them, which is obviously not the case. While you naturally want to please and impress them, don’t let them cross the line. This will just make them see you as a pushover and make you feel disrespected. So make it clear to them about what you are comfortable with early on. It’s also important to respect their wishes if they don’t find holding hands or kissing in public as amazing as you do. Never force them to do something they don’t feel comfortable doing. Remember that being loved up in public does not necessarily mean you don’t have strong feelings for each other. There are some other boundaries that you can put in place to make your relationship stronger all around. To find out what they are, look at http://www.loveisrespect.org.

Remain true to yourself

sunset-538286_640We all compromise to some extent when it comes to relationships. While it can be beneficial and promote an open and healthy relationship, it can also be detrimental. If you compromise too much in the first few months of your relationship, you start to lose what makes you, you. This can lead to a very negative start to your relationship and make you miserable. Compromise is a two-way street and needs to be balanced for it to be effective. Otherwise, it’s too one sided and only makes one person happy and not both. Arguments can easily start this way and an enormous pressure to constantly please will ensue. A healthy relationship is one based on sharing and encouraging one another to be themselves.

So if your relationship is causing you to compromise your values, opinions or beliefs, something needs to change. Take a look at http://thoughtcatalog.com for tips on how to remain true to yourself and prevent you from losing what makes you unique.

Alternatively, if you are the one who is asking for too much compromise, it might be time to reconsider a few things. Maybe this person is not really who you thought they were. Or maybe you’re being a bit too controlling. Remember that you are not always going to be right and it’s ok for others to have different views and opinions to your own. Just because your partner may not always agree with you, does not mean that they like you any less.

Give them space

Understandably you want to talk to and see your new love as often as you can, particularly in the honeymoon phase. But this can be suffocating if you go too over the top. Endless calls and texts all day every day and seeing them too often will not give sufficient space for the relationship to grow. You need to encourage time apart so you have time to miss each other and look forward to seeing each other again. If you’re in touch all time and seeing each other too often, all the mystery and longing to be together will quickly disappear. Try organizing one or two days a week where you spend time together in this early stage. Also, keep your texting and instant messaging to a reasonable level and don’t get mad if he or she doesn’t text back straight away. Encourage them to spend time with their friends or finish their work rather than spending every moment with you. This will give you both time to breathe and will promote healthy and active growth in your relationship. It may take some time to adjust but they are more likely to stick around if you play it cool. We all need space alone from time to time and it can only be of benefit to you both. For more information on how giving space can help your relationship visit http://www.relationshiptalk.net.

These rules will set boundaries and build a strong foundation for your new relationship. They should help it develop into something that is long lasting and less likely to fizzle out in the early stages. Sometimes no matter how hard we want it to work, things don’t always go as planned. So even if they aren’t quite right for you, you know exactly what to do next time.

 

About Kellie R. Stone

"I make no excuses for my diverse roles as a Rock Your Feminine Type Coach™ and Branding Expert, best-selling author, and crime thriller novelist. Yes, I do still chuckle a bit at the irony. I kick ass as a women’s biz coach by day and kill off vulnerable fiction characters at night. What the hell, it makes for some interesting dreams. I believe that everyone should pursue their passions no matter how out there they seem to be. One of those pure heart-fluttering passions for me has always been writing. Since I did, indeed, chase my dream of being a writer, I've published two non-fiction books in the self-development genre, co-authored an international best seller, and now I'm finally pushing my much-too-old-to-be-in-the-nest novel out the door and into the world. My whole world is empowering and I adore showing others how to live life unfiltered, whether I do that through the written word or my coaching work. I love my job!" ~Kellie R. Stone

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