Wow, I feel like it’s been forever since I sat down to write a post! The out-of-state move has been a challenging time to say the least. But I’m back! Though I still have boxes to unpack and curtains to hang, I’m looking past the physical stuff for a bit to stare into my emotional self. Change is hard. And it can even feel like your whole world is imploding on you. I’ve run the wheel of emotions for the past few months, as we anticipated this move and the shift we would experience. And, yes, it’s felt like one huge whirlwind at times! But, really, it’s just a speed bump on the journey!
With the success of the book I co-authored Success in Beauty: The Secrets to Effortless Fulfillment and Happiness
and the extra media attention, you would think I would be beaming and bouncing off the walls but, honestly, I’ve been down and lacking energy. Don’t get me wrong, I celebrated the book going to #1 internationally, but it was sandwiched by slices of grief of moving from my hometown and an exhausted body. I do, however, feel like I’m finally coming out of the fog now, enough to start getting ready for the holidays, a much anticipated visit from my daughter and grandchild, and the upcoming release of my other book, The Butterfly Payoff.
I realized something about myself: I do much better with transition than I used to. This fact brings me so much joy. It’s been a long road to get here, but I wouldn’t change a thing. I’d like to share some of the things that helped me get through this period of change.
Five Tips for a Happy Transition
1. Give yourself an f-ing break…really. Being too self-critical and expecting perfection during times of change and challenge is not the most serving thing to do. I learned this one the hard way. It’s OK to let some things go for a period. Get back to your routine and schedule when you can. This may be a time you need some extra comfort food, a glass of wine (or a few) or hot baths to calm your nerves. Help yourself to feel safe and comfortable in a way that serves who you are. Don’t worry if you fall short of the norm, as this time will pass and things will settle into a new normal.
2. Visualize the outcome you desire. Use that powerful mind of yours to connect to your dreams and goals! Seeing and feeling what we want is how we attract those things to us. It’s harder when you’re emotionally overwhelmed, but that is the time to do it the most.
3. Watch your words, tone and body language. When we are stressed, it shows in many ways. A short temper, a rolling eye, impatience, louder volume to your voice…you know what I mean. Be mindful of how you express yourself to others during transitional times. It’s OK if you mess up and let shadow bitch out. Be gentle with her. She is a part of you, too. I had to apologize a few times lately for my SB.
4. Set Priorities. Remember you don’t have to get it all done in a day. No matter what your transitional situation is, you have a right to walk its path at a pace that suits you and your life. I found making a list of needs and wants during my transition helped to curb anxiety and assisted in accomplishing my goals. Prioritizing tasks helps you to see just what is important to get through each day.
5. Find some peace. Take a moment to breathe deeply, to recapture a centered mind and heart. You need all of your being to make it through challenge, including a sharp mind, well body, and fully fed spirit. Prayer, meditation, and connecting with your spiritual source regularly will ultimately help you keep balanced and focused.
Well, ladies, that’s all I have for now. I hope you are well and falling more in love with the authentic, beautiful women you are! I’d love to hear about your experience with a challenging time in your life. Someone may need to hear what you have to say…