Ladies, let’s talk about image. Yea, that’s right, the clothes you are wearing right this minute. Do they really speak to who you are? One of my favorite silly eCards read something like this… “Just curious… what part of that outfit made you look in the mirror and say, ‘YES. This is how I choose to represent myself today.’?” I feel like saying this every time I walk into a mall. I don’t, of course, in fear of being beat over the head with a bedazzled fanny pack.
I can’t tell you how many women I have spoken to… potential clients, friends, co-workers…. that always tell me “If I only lost 20 more pounds, THEN I would love to work on improving my wardrobe.” Every time I hear this, my heart sinks a little. There is a little voice inside of me that screams at that point…. Why not look fantastic now??? Why sentence yourself to sweatpants and over sized t-shirts because you’re not the size you’d like to be??
I will be the first to admit…. I’ve struggled with my weight my entire life. From the stresses of image in high school, to the “perfect dancer” image I was always compared to during my 10+ years in ballet…. to my near decade stint in the military…. it seems like I always put myself in a situation where the numbers on the scale determines my credibility as a person. But even at my heaviest (181 lbs on a 5’4” frame, yikes!)…. I always found a way to look and feel fabulous. Last time I checked, I don’t have to step on a scale to walk into a club…. Nobody is peeking at the tag in my jeans (although that would make for an entirely different post right there — tee hee!)…. so why fret about a stupid number?
Bottom line is… there is a way for you to look your best right this very minute. It might take a little education (hey, shopping doesn’t come with an instruction booklet…if it did, I’d be out of a job!), a little patience, and most of all….. confidence in yourself. So what if your calves are too skinny, or if your arms are too beefy, or if your waist is more convex then concave. You ARE beautiful in your own unique way. So toss those hoodies and yoga pants out the window (unless you are headed to yoga, of course) and let your own Sophista out!
Five Quick Tips to a Better Image Now:
1. Save the gym clothes for the gym!
2. Smile! It’s the best accessory to any outfit (better than diamonds IMO!)
3. Stop looking at numbers (as in your weight and your sizes). If you feel good about what you look like, then those digits mean diddly.
4. Going shopping? Try EVERYTHING on. Always. End of story.
5. Start doing a little research. Pick up a fashion magazine, look at Pinterest, and read my blog posts (of course!) If you see something you like, save it!
What about your image do you struggle with the most?