I promised you a part 2, so here it is. I left you with some questions to answer about various things that might have to do with chronic anger. How did you do with that? If you have no idea what I’m talking about, go here and read part 1 first. OK, now that you’ve done that, let’s move on to some ways you can recognize and overcome that persistent aggression that is likely holding you back in one or more areas of your life.
Get a Clue
The following symptoms are fairly common with anger issues. Do you have any of them?
• Inability to sleep
• Often raise your voice
• Feelings of sadness and despair
• Intolerance of people who are different
• Sudden, boiling temper that you can’t control
I could go on here, but I think these basic symptoms are enough for you to recognize any issue you might be having. I used to have an anger problem. My thing was the sudden, boiling temper that usually resulted in slamming doors and breaking the first thing I could grab and throw. Definitely not a healthy way to deal with anger. Let me tell you what I did to overcome it.
First, I made peace with my past. I explored the unresolved issues and unhealed wounds that ultimately were destroying my attitude about my life at that time. This is a difficult thing for many people because it can bring unpleasant memories to the surface – ones that you swore to never think of again. This meant forgiving others, myself, and asking them to forgive me.
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What happens when the people you need to forgive won’t take ownership for the way they hurt you?
Thank you for your question…it’s a really good one. Unfortunately, we cannot control what others do or think, so this fact makes it difficult to get that 100% satisfaction. However, forgiving someone releases you from the event or events that hurt you. It is a way to accept what has happened and choose to move forward with your life and emotions. That person(s) may never validate you or your pain, but regardless, you have the power to heal and overcome the residual pain that remains. You are the only one who can take “ownership” of your life, pain, thoughts, actions, etc… Hope that helps. Be well.
is there a part 3? lol
this is awesome but i have tried and haven’t been able to overcome it… making peace with the past is not as easy as it sounds, and i still haven’t figured out how to meditate 🙂 …. part 3, here i come