The thing you need to know about chronic anger is that it potentially has a root in a completely different emotion altogether. In fact, it’s safe to say that frustration and unfulfilled expectations are more accurately to blame than an out-of-control aggressive personality. When our needs go unmet for any length of time, we become less able to keep ourselves even keeled and behaving rationally. This “tilt” of sort is what causes the snippy attitude, the bitch from hell outbursts, and the misfortune demise of your grandmother’s crystal glasses. I might be exaggerating a little, but you get the point – your mad and you don’t care who knows it or what you break to express it.
Another common cause of perpetual PMS (misdirected anger) is the physical imbalance that can happen when you are constantly under stress or put in situations that are out of control. If it gets to this point, unstable emotions are the result of insufficient brain chemicals and too much of others. This isn’t a chemistry or biology lesson, so I’m not going to get into the technical stuff. I just want you to understand how ignoring an anger issue could potentially be dangerous to your health.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. How many hours a day are you under stress?
2. What unfulfilled expectations do you have?
3. Have you had a recent trauma; such as, divorce, death of a loved one, a move, job change, illness?
4. What things or activities bring you peace? How often do you engage in them?
5. Do you blame others for your problems? If so, whom?
6. Are you tired enough of being angry to do some work and overcome it?
After answering these questions, please think about what else might be playing a part in your extreme emotions. Hold that thought; I will continue with part 2 of Why Am I Always Angry tomorrow. Until then, be well-be beautiful.
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