Don’t Take “No” for an Answer
Do you go through emotional cycles that take you from elation to the depths of despair in short periods of time? Do you wonder why you can’t seem to keep things even-keeled and running smoothly? Do you wish you weren’t constantly moved by your circumstances whether good or bad?
Well, I can say that I’ve experienced all of the above…even some recently.
Most of this way of thinking comes from the core beliefs we have about ourselves, our place in the world, and our relationship to others. What we see and think we know about who we are can provoke the scariest roller coaster ride ever! One that getting off of is not easy…but doable with some practice.
Have you ever been to a professional, like a doctor or lawyer and asked for advice? I’m sure you have. When we seek out others for answers, we usually accept what we get as the “truth” or at least reasonable and worthy of our time and money. Right? We don’t waste any time picking up that prescription or getting that test done. We act immediately on what we “believe” is in our best interest.
But for some reason when it comes to trusting ourselves, our intuitions and self-knowing, we cringe or find every way to avoid what we hear, what we know, what we should be acting upon. Well, maybe not all the time but definitely enough that it keeps us from reaching most of our goals and dreams. One thing I realized about myself was that I tend to say “no” to myself by avoiding the important steps. The “no” is expressed in many different ways; it can be procrastination, avoidance, self-sabotage, anger, illness, depression, and my favorite: excuses!
Sound familiar to anyone?
That’s what I thought.
“Believe in love. Believe in magic. Hell, believe in Santa Clause. Believe in others. Believe in yourself. Believe in your dreams. If you don’t, who will?” -Jon Bon Jovi
So now the only thing to do is stop saying “no” to yourself and start saying YES! This is pure grit; it’s the nose-to-the-grindstone event that changes everything about your life; it’s the decision to make something different happen; it’s you and me being who we are supposed to be…
I do this exercise to reinforce my “YES”:
Visualize yourself opening all kinds of doors, each one leading to a different place or opportunity. See and hear yourself gleaning from these places; feel yourself enjoying the benefits of your opportunities. Most importantly, know that you have the right to say “YES” to any of them or all of them! This is the key to changing those ugly core beliefs. We all have places to go and people to meet; we have purpose and gifts that need to be utilized. There’s only one way to do that: walk through those doors and just say yes…
Be Beautiful-Be Creative-Be Happy!
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