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The Daily 300
I’ve never heard (or read) as much controversy and ridicule as I did when the airlines decided to charge to check baggage. I also realized that this was going to force passengers to re-think what they really needed for any given trip. No more “just in case I need it” packing. Now, if you hang around here at all, you know I’m not going to go on about the aviation industry and their desperate attempt to make a buck. I’m only using them as an example for a little life lesson (in 300 words or less, of course.
Money. You know that green stuff that we go bonkers over when someone tries to take more than they should…like the airlines. After all, we paid for the ticket and should be able to take whatever we want on our trips whether we need it or not. Right? Well, maybe for flying on a plane, but definitely not for the kind of flying I’m talking about.
Do you know what it feels like to be free – when everything seems to open up for you and you’re on top of the world (a sense of self-flight)? That’s what I’m talking about. Guess what? If you do know that wonderful place, it’s because you dumped your baggage before you started climbing – your emotional baggage, that is.
Hanging onto unnecessary emotions and pain from the past (packing more than you need) is not an option if you want to move freely to the next destination in your life journey. Why? Because I said so…no, seriously, it’s much too costly. Only it isn’t that green stuff leaving; it’s a nice piece of yourself being offered to the kick-me-when-I’m-down god. We’ve all done it, but it’s time to stop paying for your baggage.
Just let it go. Be well-be beautiful.
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The Daily 300
I noticed the packaging on my toddler’s Duplo Blocks, it read: Endless Possibilities. It doesn’t get much more inspiring than that. The thing is…you don’t have to say that to a toddler or to any child. The word “duh” comes to mind. Children are naturally curious, adventurous, go-all-out, bring it, and don’t see the world as limiting. Why do we lose that sense of wonder when we “grow up”? When was the last time that you caught yourself thinking about something in infinite terms?
That’s what I thought.
It’s not a common practice when we have all this life to live, right? Well, it should be. Recently, I started thinking a little more expansive. I’ve never felt more alive and hopeful about my future! I really believe we are meant to create our own endless possibilities…daily, hourly, by the second!
When Your Brain Oozes Outside the Box
Oooh…gross! Not so fast. Physically, yes, it’s an icky picture. But think about the bigger element – mind expansion. Along with growing your heart, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself and others. Yes, the world needs you to start oozing….anytime now. Go ahead, make a big mess! Let it all hang out of your pretty little world. Remember, just because you don’t think endless possibilities are really possible, doesn’t mean they aren’t. Be well-be beautiful.
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The Daily 300
I was thinking the other day about what it’s like to have a wonderful experience in a store or restaurant as opposed to a not-so-good one. You know them both well, I’m sure. One thing that stands out to me, and brings the server a tip to write home to mom about, is professionalism. When it’s present, service rocks! Not so much when the server stutters through their greeting, doesn’t know the menu nor how to smile. There are boat loads of young people out there in the service industry who don’t have a clue what the word means, let alone how to act with it. So, if you find yourself receiving excellent service while boosting the anemic economy, be thankful.
Not Just for Professionals
Even if you are not in a service “profession”, there should be a certain level of upstanding mannerism coming from your person. In other words, don’t act like a fool, a tart, a know-it-all, or a bee-otch while talking to your doctor, your child’s teachers, your husband’s boss, or any other service provider you might come in contact with. Keep your cool, ladies. This used to be a hard one for me; I was, let’s say, difficult…sometimes. My body and mental state suffered from it, too. It’s that stress thing again.
You appreciate when others are accommodating and kind. Well, how you should act while interacting with people goes without saying. Understand that you never know who you might meet – what opportunities lie awaiting for you. Be well-be beautiful.
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The Daily 300
If you want something different, do something different…anything. Color your hair; change your bedtime to an hour earlier; don’t let that bully at work push you around anymore. Change takes action – not that same old action that you’ve been taking though.
Take a look around now
Change the direction
Adjust the tuning
Try a new translation
Don’t look at your man in the same old way
Take a new picture
Just because you don’t see shooting stars
Doesn’t mean it isn’t perfect
can’t you see…
It’s the stuff that dreams are made of
It’s the slow and steady fire
It’s the stuff that dreams are made of
It’s your heart and soul’s desire
It’s the stuff that dreams are made of
Yes, those are the brilliant lyrics of singer songwriter, Carly Simon. That song saved my ass from giving up many times. There is such a simple truth in the words that you can’t deny it’s profound message. It’s my message for you today. You may not see the “new picture” right away, but keep trying; it will come. Be well-be beautiful.
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The Daily 300
Happiness, Love, Financial Abundance, Health - all things that most women want in their lives, but what about the details? How do you know what job or mate is best for you? How do you know when it’s time to do something different? These questions are common, can be mind-boggling, and sure don’t come with stock answers. Many variables exist in our experience. One decision can make or break your future. No pressure or anything. So, really, how do you know if what you think you want is the right thing?
Here’s the thing, Ladies…you can’t. At least not completely. Every choice you make has some risk involved. There are no guarantees that the end result will please you or others. This thing called life is an adventure, isn’t it?
Let me share a couple things that might help.
Balance is really the key to knowing what will be good for you. The three parts of your being (Body, Mind, Spirit) are always fighting for attention. And, occasionally, we give into to one a little too much. You know what I’m talking about. If you don’t, try journaling your daily activities so you can see exactly how much time you spend on each area. You might be surprised. Our choices will be more productive when we are in harmony with ourselves.
Additionally, our spirits are quite capable of hearing from a Divine Higher Power (I’m not talking about your boss or overbearing sister, either). Feel free to ask questions…often. I talk to God all the time. If you are unsure about what you believe concerning spiritual issues, it’s okay to seek until you find what you are looking for. When you do, I have a feeling that those decisions won’t be so difficult to make. Be well-be beautiful.
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Someone anonymously once said, “Confidence is the feeling we have before knowing all the facts.” This quote speaks a profound truth to me: You don’t have to be perfect and completely prepared before moving into something new. Of course, it always helps being skilled, educated, and spiffed up a bit, but God knows if we waited for all of that to be completely finished, we would never do anything worthwhile.
Did you ever wonder why certain people always seem to get the job, the guy, the girl, the money, the best opportunities? Hmmm. What do you think they do differently? My guess is they have confidence in themselves and it shows. But wait. What you see may not be what is real.
There is real confidence and there is the plastic kind. Let’s address the “plastic” version first. This unfortunate character flaw is that obnoxious, toot-your-own-horn kind that spills greed and vanity all over the place. It’s a self-induced delusion of being better than others not a self-love that propels you onward.
Now, for the “real” deal.
Though it’s okay to be positive and believe that you can be more than you are, understand that you can take it too far. To keep it real, make sure that you bring “it” to the table. If you talk-the-talk, walk-the-walk. Women with real confidence don’t have to brag or show off their status; they simply be who they are. They attract personal success through this truth. So, let it come naturally, but feel free to kick it in the ass if it needs it.
What gives you confidence to take risks? To make change? Be well-be beautiful.
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Waste not-want not; isn’t that what THEY say? If the worst thing that you waste on a daily basis is the last 3 oz of Coke in the bottom of the can, you can rest with no guilt. On the other hand, wasteful thinking is, well, a waste of time and a serious matter. By that I mean: Stop thinking about all the stuff you do wrong! Here it is, Ladies; these short (300 words or less) journey tidbits are not for the faint of heart or the lazy! I mean it…get busy!
We are blessed with so much power, and what do we do, we waste it. Why?
Hell if I know.
What are we going to do about it?
Work smarter.
Mind Over Matter…Literally
I believe in this concept with all of my heart. It rings true with just about every religious belief out there and can bring results that will blow your mind! Here it is…pay attention….you’re gonna love this…
SEE IT, BELIEVE IT, REALIZE IT, HAVE IT (and I’m only on 173 words)
If you can, work with a coach on some visualization techniques. I have done this myself and have had phenomenal results. My marriage has gone from extremely troubled to peaceful and happy; my mind is filled daily with creative ideas for the blog and future endeavors; my children are acting better; financial favor is pouring in; I’m overwhelmed with joy that I have discovered this practice and it’s working!
I am currently accepting five special women to work with as I begin my Journey Coaching business. I’m offering one month of free coaching that includes one consultation call and four additional weekly phone sessions. If you are interested in this opportunity, please contact me at womenslifelink@gmail.com. Be well-be beautiful.
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In simple terms stress can be defined as the body’s response to the demands put on it. Furthermore, it has no boundaries or rules; everyone responds to it differently. What is stressful to me may not be to you and visa-versa. That is why you always think Aunt Mary is overreacting when the family arrives at her home late for dinner. Deviating from her plans is a stressor for Mary but may not be for the rest of the family. So, we really have no right to tell someone that any specific situation should not be stressful. This is one of those “to each his own” scenarios.
Since it’s the beginning of a new year, I thought it might be a good time to identify some stressors in my life. I came up with the following:
• Excessive noise and confusion
• Being overwhelmed with housework
• Feeling uninformed about something
• Headaches
It’s a short list…thank God. For the most part I stay calm and positive about the events of my life. However, the above four things can send me to the moon with erratic behavior if I don’t get the chance to remove myself from them. These stressors are serious for me. But by identifying them, I have the upper-hand at prevention. Go ahead and give yourself five minutes to pin-point your stressors. Don’t forget to write them down. When you’ve done that, you can try harder to avoid them or at least minimize them.
This self-improvement step is important for busy women as we have so much on our plates most of the time. Give yourself time to process what you discover. Meditate or pray about how you can reduce the stress in your life. Be well-be beautiful.
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Though I could talk for hours on this subject, I’ll just give you a few minutes of chattering. Human nature is complex, and yet, so simple. The complex parts drive us to reach new heights of success in science, medicine, athletics, literature, and technology. Our world is full of these examples. On the other hand, it’s also full of mishaps, mistakes, and failures. Here’s the simple part of our beings: We are not perfect. There I said it. It’s out of the bag now. We are destined to screw up now and then…however, there is a simple (I didn’t say easy) solution to this common dilemma. REDO.
OK, just so we get this straight, I never promised you a rose garden. Redoing or using a second chance to make something right isn’t always full-proof. It could take several. Hello, work! Now, when I say work, I don’t necessarily mean the kind of toil that requires sweat. Think more of it as inner work.
When we have a set back, we often want to keep pushing the universal boundaries by doing the same thing over and over again. Really? Yes, really; we’re pretty insane like that. How about instead of repeating our mistake, we try getting some advice first. Ask and you shall receive. Drop your pride for just a minute. Take some time to seek answers through prayer or meditation. Being open to divine inspiration and even the wisdom of others is a step toward true success no matter what the issue is.
One last thing, before you move on to redos and second chances, make sure that you are not making important decisions when you are emotionally compromised. Calm down; breathe; be thankful. OK, now you’re ready. Be well-be beautiful.
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The Daily 3oo
I’m coming at you again with a quick life-journey tip (300 words or less) that will make a significant impact on your efforts for quality change. Accountability is the topic at hand. Pay attention. This is important if you want to create a new you.
It’s one thing to come up with a great plan to lead you to victory, but it’s another to work that plan and keep it a priority. Being accountable to another person or group of people is one way to increase your chances of success. Here’s the thing: Make sure that the person(s) with which you are sharing your goals is trustworthy and will keep their end of the bargain. By that I mean, they will come along side you and help you achieve your goals.
You may want to choose someone who has already accomplished what you are trying to do. Their victory will become an invaluable inspiration when things become difficult. Or you could team up with someone who is currently working on their own goal. That means that they will be accountable to you. Another option is to join a group that meets regularly where you can share ideas and get encouragement from several people at once. Make sure you feel comfortable in a group setting before committing yourself.
If you have it in your budget, hire a coach who can walk you through your goals one step at a time. They are knowledgeable in self-growth areas and often have extensive resources to offer as well. The important thing is doing what makes you happy and will bring the best results. Accountability is just a part of your journey to self-improvement. Be well-be beautiful.
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A Season of Pain
The stark reality of life can sometimes bring us to the point of confusion, desperation, and even self-destruction. Not to dwell on the negative, on the contrary, I want to share about the place that is on the other side of difficulties and tragedy – the place where you can look back and see that you were strong and brave. I’m fortunate to have experienced this proverbial “light at the end of the tunnel” many times.
Eleven years have passed since the beginning of a long period of time that changed my life forever. Within fourteen months, I tragically lost my 34-year-old brother, my mother, and my only living grandparent – a season that threw me to the ground with grief and questioning my faith. It didn’t end with the deaths. After the sting of human loss, my family went through financial difficulties and personal health issues that nearly killed me.
Moving Through It
I’m sharing this not to get your sympathy but to prove to you that no matter what you go through, you can and will reach the other side of it. What condition you are in when you get there is up to you. If you choose to deal with your circumstances with hope and positive energy, you will find peace. If you choose despair and and ongoing negative thinking, you will end up missing the good that is there.
An Inspiring Story
One of my all-time favorite stories is that of skier Jill Kinmont. In the book, The Other Side of the Mountain – The Inspiring Story of Skiing Star Jill Kinmont from Triumph to Tragedy and Back, you follow Jill from a successful athetic career to a tragic accident that robs her of the ability to continue as an Olympic hopeful. However, she gains a life that would not have been possible if her accident had never happened. Please check it out if you’ve never read it or seen the movie.
Each woman has to find the path to the other side of the muddy pit or the mountain. Though there is help out there, you still need to focus your energy on what good is in your life and how you can use the situation to help others. This is the fastest way to get purpose and focus back. Journaling your feelings and your goals is also helpful when you can’t seem to get anywhere with your scattered thoughts. Just remember that no matter what “it” is, “it” will pass. Please share your experiences with us. If you have any questions or comments that are more private, go to the contact page and enter them there. Be well-be beautiful.
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