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Where Do I Belong?

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Leave it to me to load a question like that, as if it was a one pound baked potato with all the toppings you could possibly eat in one sitting. And, as stuffing yourself with a mammoth starch-riddled spud tends to make you feel like a gluttonous ogre, trying to answer this inquiry quickly and with clarity puts your mind into digestive overload.  You wonder if your thoughts about yourself and your current status genuinely “belong” to a world that was meant for you or if you are simply avoiding it out of fear or confusion?  Well, I say both.  By that I mean that our fearful detours are a part of our journey; they are necessary in order to become who and what we are.  My thoughts tend to get jumbled when I think about all the alternative choices I could have made in my life, but then i realize that I am “me” because of the ones I did make.  That other woman, the one who chose something else, well…she’s not me.

I think the real issue comes when we don’t accept ourselves where we are and start comparing our results with those of others. The perpetual competition that you can never win because it’s an illusion, a fraud that society has placed before us to create pressure…the kind that makes us spend money…money to create a higher level of beauty, intelligence, wealth, and health.  It’s a marketing plan, and it, unfortunately, works.

So, how do we know when we belong?

Well, I try to gauge decision-making with a simple process. If I feel energized and liberated by my choice, then it’s likely the right one.  On the contrary, if I feel confusion, fear, and stress, it’s likely not.  Sometimes you can’t always make decisions based on your feelings, but, at the same time, don’t discount them when they pop up.  And just relax a little.  Flow with your life as if you were floating on a raft in the ocean.  There is a natural “tide” that guides and produces a force that will take you exactly where you need to be.  Stop fighting it!  Going against yourself is exhausting.  Exhaustion leads to confusion and discontentment.

How do you know that you belong?  Do share…

Be Beautiful-Be Creative-Be Happy!


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About Kellie R. Stone

"I make no excuses for my diverse roles as a Rock Your Feminine Type Coach™ and Branding Expert, best-selling author, and crime thriller novelist. Yes, I do still chuckle a bit at the irony. I kick ass as a women’s biz coach by day and kill off vulnerable fiction characters at night. What the hell, it makes for some interesting dreams. I believe that everyone should pursue their passions no matter how out there they seem to be. One of those pure heart-fluttering passions for me has always been writing. Since I did, indeed, chase my dream of being a writer, I've published two non-fiction books in the self-development genre, co-authored an international best seller, and now I'm finally pushing my much-too-old-to-be-in-the-nest novel out the door and into the world. My whole world is empowering and I adore showing others how to live life unfiltered, whether I do that through the written word or my coaching work. I love my job!" ~Kellie R. Stone

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