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6 Ways To Improve Your Confidence After A Breakup

Relationships are ever-changing and filled with many ups and downs. Sometimes, this means ending things is the best choice. Nevertheless, even if it’s for the best, it still hurts and can leave you feeling lost and lacking confidence. This is perfectly normal and something you have to walk through. The important thing is to gain an understanding about yourself, your needs, and relationship goals. A part of this recovery is re-establishing your self-esteem and joy. Here are some of my best tips to improve your confidence after a breakup.

Improve Your Confidence After A Breakup #1: Positive Affirmations

One thing that helps me after any kind of personal trauma is making sure to practice positive affirmations every morning. These self-talk mantras can include your best attributes and dreams. Tell yourself you are lovable and worthy, special and unique. Remember, your breakup doesn’t reflect who you are or whether you are a quality person. In fact, it may have nothing to do with who you are at all.

Improve Your Confidence After A Breakup #2: Meditation

Taking time to be alone and gently think through things is one way to calm your emotional state. It can also lend a hand to your self-esteem and confidence. Don’t take your mental and emotional health for granted. Take time to heal from a breakup by allowing yourself to feel what you feel first. This can be done with or without meditation, but I do believe being purposeful with your personal time helps to focus on healing.

This also might be a good time to practice yoga or some other physical activity that focuses on breathing and centering. If you are trying to deal with low confidence and insecurity, these practices offer a way to regain life-momentum and joy. Additionally, you might consider joining a class or workshop to get you socializing again.

Improve Your Confidence After A Breakup #3: Closure

I’m a woman who prefers to understand the reasons behind things. Because of this, not knowing why something doesn’t work drives me up the wall, especially with relationships. Acceptance of a broken relationship may come on its own without a full explanation, but it may not. It’s OK to ask your former partner for answers to your questions so you can glean important wisdom for the future. It will also give you some clarity, which goes far for rebuilding self-esteem. 

Improve Your Confidence After A Breakup #4: Spend Time Alone

It’s good to spend time with friends and family when you’re hurting, but equally important to have time alone. This is your time to realign with your truth, goals, dreams, and future. Before you can establish a new relationship after a breakup, it’s important to accept and love yourself. Otherwise, how can you expect someone else to? You can be your own best friend during this recovery time or your worst enemy. Remember to set a goal with your personal time. For example, give yourself 15 minutes to grieve and then 15 minutes to meditate on all the wonderful things you have to offer the world and others.

Improve Your Confidence After A Breakup #5: Accept Compliments

If your former partner didn’t pay much attention to you or compliment, you may feel a deficit in this area. It may even prevent you from believing that you are beautiful, sexy, or valuable. This is a perfect reason to take time rebuilding your self-esteem. One of the signs of confidence is having the ability to gracefully accept compliments. Believe it or not, confidence is not only attractive to others but also gives you that extra edge to move forward in your life after a breakup. Own your strengths as well as your weaknesses to present the whole wonderful woman you are. I think you will be pleasantly surprised at how much new attention you’ll get.

Improve Your Confidence After A Breakup #6: Date Again when You’re Ready

Once you have healed and can remember the past without the pain, you can healthily open up to new relationship possibilities.  Also, remember what pitfalls showed up with your last relationship. Don’t jump in head first; get to know someone before you decide whether or not it’s a good match. If you are a little shy about going out to meet people, at first, try to join friends or groups. You can also check out dating sites like Megamates.com to find people who have the same values and interests as you before you start dating again.

Recovering from a breakup can be challenging at best. However, with self-focus and time, you can come out as a better woman and person in general. The key is to learn from mistakes and strive to cultivate confidence and your weaknesses. 


About Kellie R. Stone

"I make no excuses for my diverse roles as a Rock Your Feminine Type Coach™ and Branding Expert, best-selling author, and crime thriller novelist. Yes, I do still chuckle a bit at the irony. I kick ass as a women’s biz coach by day and kill off vulnerable fiction characters at night. What the hell, it makes for some interesting dreams. I believe that everyone should pursue their passions no matter how out there they seem to be. One of those pure heart-fluttering passions for me has always been writing. Since I did, indeed, chase my dream of being a writer, I've published two non-fiction books in the self-development genre, co-authored an international best seller, and now I'm finally pushing my much-too-old-to-be-in-the-nest novel out the door and into the world. My whole world is empowering and I adore showing others how to live life unfiltered, whether I do that through the written word or my coaching work. I love my job!" ~Kellie R. Stone

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