Anais Nin once said, “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish it’s source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings “. In part I whole heartedly agree with her. Love does not just fade away into the back ground. One or both parties let it die.
I have lived through the ugliness of love dying a slow and cruel death, but all hope was not lost. I am happily remarried to a man whom I find perfect ( for me that is). Both my husband and I are divorcees. Strangely enough, I have found not only the love of my life but also my dearest friend when I married him.
Sadly, my husband is not whom I refer to. My dearest friend is, in fact, my husband’s ex-wife. As strange as it may seem for all of you reading this, imagine my poor husband’s reaction. I met her one sunny, summer day when she dropped off a bill that accidentally got sent to her address instead of ours. We talked about how silly the gas company was and then about my new relationship with her ex-husband.
What made me give this woman who, as far as i knew had broken my love’s heart, the time of day was the guts it took to meet the person who, in a sense, had replaced her. Love and relationships are tricky. In our case, love was like a phoenix- something new and amazing came out of the ashes. A new life for both of them and a new friendship that survived- no thrived- despite the odds against it.
While I’m sure there was jealousy on both sides of this new fragile friendship, we both let go of petty feelings. I now am proud to say that even though my husband’s ex-wife might know him better in some ways than I do, she is my dearest friend. She is an amazing woman who helped me through the many trips my husband has had to take and stood by me for the birth of my daughter this past July. The featured photo is of me, my husband, my son and daughter, my best friend (the ex-wife), and her newly wed husband.
If you have an amazing story of love triumphing over even the most difficult circumstances, please share. These stories are so inspiring to us all.