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You and your partner have decided to declare your love for each other in front of your nearest and dearest, and you couldn’t be more excited to do so. YYou’ve got the whole day planned out, from where you’ll say “I do” to how you’ll celebrate afterward.our special day wouldn’t be complete without wedding vows to remember. Do I sense a subtle cringe? I get it, you’re not a poet. Don’t worry, I’ve compiled a few hints and tips to get you started.
Although writing your own vows might be a little daunting, seeing your partner’s face light up with overwhelming joy and love will make it all worth the extra time you spend. That’s a promise.
Agree On the Number of Words or Vows
The first step to writing your vows should be to sit down with your partner and discuss the process. Chat about how many words you would like to write or the number of vows to make to each other. This is important, as it could be a little embarrassing if one partner says 3 words and the other recites a dissertation. Also, discuss a format with your partner, such as, whether you’ll make the vows romantic or humorous. It’s your big day; you can create your vows to suit your relationship. So, don’t be afraid to get creative.
Once you’ve ironed out the details, the next step is to get inspired. Go online and read some examples of personalized vows to get some ideas. If there’s any that you particularly like the tone or style of, save them. I love listening to music and reading poetry to get inspired to write meaningful prose. If you’re religious, you could consider researching wedding bible verses or meaningful spiritual text. Just because you’re writing them yourself, doesn’t mean they can’t include the works of others. I say quotes make any speech better. The trick is to find one or two that say exactly what you want.
Consider Your Relationship Values
Making vows isn’t just to make promises to your partner; it’s also to tell him or her what you love about being together and your relationship. When writing your vows, think about what you value most about your relationship. Is it your partner’s kind and caring nature? Do you laugh together? Is it his or her emotional side that you love? Whatever it is that you love about your partner, find a way to mention it in your vows. This will make the moment more personal and memorable.
Give the Gift of Your Heart and Creativity
Believe it or not, writing your own vows doesn’t have to be daunting or stressful. Remember to be yourself and understand that your partner loves you. There is nothing like giving another person the gift of your heart and creativity. The more personal and unique you make this declaration, the more special the moment will be. I’ve seen people sing their vows or even dance them. Get creative.
One other thing you can do is ask yourself this: If I had 5 minutes left with my partner on this planet, what would I say? I guarantee you’ll think of only the most important and loving words. Perfection isn’t necessary to create wedding vows to remember, just find your heart and speak it.