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I woke up this morning with an epiphany about relationships. Well, I guess it wasn't really anything new to me, just a reminder of something that I discovered years ago. I've been having a little trouble finding common ground with one of my children lately. So much so that it's concerning. The answer came to me as I lay there thinking about getting out of bed. "You are not giving her love in the way she receives it," my inner voice chimed.

Today's topic is one with which many have trouble - on a daily basis. It is making decisions and acting upon them. I, for one, am one of those who don't find making some decisions to be pleasant; therefore, I avoid them. When I say this, I don't mean your every day ones like which breakfast cereal to buy or what shoes should I wear today; no, the ones I speak of are much more life-changing and some can even be hazardous or painful.

Are you wife of.., and mum of…, and are you spending your days in jeans and t-shirt behind the computer at home? Can you pass a construction site without anyone eying you or commenting on you anymore? Do you find your make up dried out in the back of a drawer? Then it is time to get your sexy back.

Women, especially, experience these troubling emotions when they see the ones they love hurting or in trouble. Our natural instinct to nurture and protect can be overwhelming; we are left wondering why no one sees our undying effort to make things better - can't they just stop screwing up already? And, when we can't change things quickly enough, it puts us into a heightened sense of frustration; I believe this is called motherhood or PMS.

With the "no surgery face lift" series this week, I thought I would ask you ladies what you would change about your faces if you could. Please share your wish list with us. Personally, I would change the width of my nose. A little more definition (less point) and a narrower bridge would be great. However, it's not bad enough for me to actually get surgery. I'm sort of a chicken, and I don't like the idea of someone hacking on my face. Now, if I ever broke my nose, that would be different.

Today. I want to talk about dreams. Everyone has them, whether you remember them or not. Sometimes they are whimsical and fun; sometimes they are dark and frightening. Either way, the motion pictures we get to watch while we're asleep often can be trying to tell us something important about ourselves.

Women's Life Link would like to introduce Dr. Terri Hawkins-Fox. She has been a memorable contributor to my life through her caring, wise way in which she conducts herself as a doctor and a woman. Terri is a wife, mother, grandmother, and currently owns and operates the Indianapolis wellness center Natural Rejuvenation.

"The events in our lives happen in a sequence in time, but in their significance to ourselves, they find their own order...the continuous thread of revelation." -Eudora Welty

We all want a relationship where we feel fully loved, deeply understood, and deeply valued, and where we walk the journey in complete harmony with another. Many times we are looking to the other person to provide us with what we want and need, when in truth, we simply mirror that in which we give. We often have the idea that when the perfect person comes around, we will begin to be on our best behavior, and that we will change when we meet him or her.

It dawned on me today that when we are not spiritually and emotionally sound, we can't be our best - the women that we are meant to be. You know, like when your allergies are acting up; you don't put your best foot forward because you're too busy blowing your nose and trying to breathe - nothing feels right. This is the equivalent of being emotionally stuck in second gear; you can't seem to get where you want to go at the speed you need to get there.

I recently did a post on memory loss and since decided to pursue ways to bring new health and life to my brain; it seems like a smart thing to do considering the alternative of chronic forgetfulness and even loss of brain cells. This trek that I'm on started with an evaluation of all the things that I did in my 20s and 30s when my mind seemed to be more like the proverbial steel trap than the bucket of mush it is now.

Have you ever wondered why young children enjoy simple, unimportant interactions with every day objects like flowers (or flour), bugs, water, dirt, and even the really gross stuff? Because their minds aren't filled with the complications of life, they have time for the sensical parties in which we adults refuse to partake - most of the time.

My mom died of cancer at the age of 52. That’s way too young! Why?? Through the years I have thought of her and asked God that question. Consequently, I now know why she went to an early grave. My dad was strong and authoritative, from the generation that taught him to be the head of the household and that the wife must submit to his every wish, while giving up her own desires and dreams.

How many of us have gazed into the mirror only to see ourselves at an earlier age, an age in which circumstances have left us in a drama of life that we were forever trying to forget; one that we thought we had buried, and yet time has brought forth the resurfacing of misdirected and scattered emotions – often those that have wounded and left us in a state of despair? Why is it we would choose to carry the burden of unpleasant memories rather than allowing them to be released with love and forgiveness, or at least understanding?

I am reminded every day of my age by looking in the mirror, remembering my oldest daughter's is 24, and by the wisdom (and trivia) that I have acquired over the years. I'm not going to write about mid-life crises or anything like that. On the contrary, I believe that neither your state of health nor your beauty should have one iota to do with the number of years you've been on the planet; unless, of course, they are better because you have made a few more mistakes and learned from them.